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writes:Not sure what to do but last night I slept with the adopted daughter of my estranged uncle. Among the obvious issues here she is also only 21 years old. I am in my early thirties. I have only recently met her in the first place. Turned out she is not only gorgeous but has an awesome personality. She is of Vietnamese decent but she’s also French so she has this amazing exotic look. She came over last night out of the blue for no real reason. It started out innocently but soon our conversation turned sexual. I tried to stay mature about it but then she came on to me very aggressively. I won't lie, I’m crazy about this girl so we had incredible sex. She slept over and cuddled all night. This morning she told me she wanted to know how I felt about having a relationship with her. Good god I want to, I really like this girl, but the age and family tie thing may be too much to overcome. As of right now we are more or less together. What should I freaking do? I was already falling for her in a big way before last night. Help! Reply to this Question
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reader, mike2000 +, writes (9 March 2011):
mike2000 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionUPDATE: thanx again everyone. We pretty much told everyone I'm my family including my uncle what is going on. Ya it was very awkward lol but to our huge surprise no one flipped out. My uncle was a bit weirded out but pretty much told us he is happy if we are happy. My mother was cool too just said she always figured I end up with a good german girl lol her way of saying she is okay with our relationship. I'm pretty sure I can honestly say I love this girl so now I guess its up to us to make this work. Your support gave me the courage to move forward so I thank each and every one of you! -Mike-
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reader, uncle bob  +, writes (9 March 2011):
 Ah, I don't really see what the problem is here.
The only thing that makes the two of you related is a sheet of paper, and when you get right down to it, the only thing paper is really any good for is wiping your ass!
So I say "Go for it"
Uncle Bob, gives his blessing!
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reader, SweetSmoochy +, writes (7 March 2011):
 Yay!! Love!! Best of luck!
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reader, mike2000 +, writes (7 March 2011):
mike2000 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanx for your support guys, I know this will be tough but we are head over heals for each other. She has been with me non stop and we are certainly discussing the ramifications of all this. My uncle has never been in my life and my family also barely knows my girl so who knows how this will pan out. I'm opretty sure we are on our way to falling in love so I guess its worth the effort. Thanx again!
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reader, Forbiddenlovebutnoregrets +, writes (7 March 2011):
 First of all...age doesn't matter. So you shouldn't have a problem with that although some people would really disagree. But those people only belongs to the minority nowadays. They would understand later. 10-15 years gap is not that bad at all.
Second, she is an adopted daughter of your uncle, so it means that, there are no biological ties. That's safe. Ur kids won't have defects in the future. If she's your 1st cousin by blood then there's a big problem. Talk to your uncle. Better yet, explain. They would understand.
Lastly, if you are sure of what you feel towards her, why not give it a chance? But of course, you should need to know her more so as not to break your heart in the future.
Good luck.. CHeers!
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reader, StarryEyes101  +, writes (7 March 2011):
 I don't see a problem with the age gap if i'm honest... My sister was 20 and going out with a 40yr old. It is legal so...
I think before you take it further you should be honest with your uncle and anyone else who should know. They'll probably be more hurt and angry if you hide it from them. It's gonna be hard but it's gotta be done.
Good Luck =)
I hope this helps
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reader, SweetSmoochy +, writes (7 March 2011):
Uh-oh!!
I don't see an ehtical problem with this. You two really like each other, you aren't related by blood, so, ta-da!
Unfortunately...it's technically illegal. Will your families have problems with this? If they will, how much will that bother you?
Things to consider. In the end though, you two are really just going to have to figure out how much you like each other and what you're willing to go through to be together. Who knows? It really might not be too much of an ordeal.
Best of Luck
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