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writes:A bunch of my friends are all having sex. I'm the only one from my original group of friends that can't get laid. I don't think i'm ever going to find a girl. What age do people usually have the most sex at? I'm 19 and starting to feel like I'm going to miss out on that window of opportunity and have a lot of regrets. Everyone I know my age or even younger has been with someone, while i just sit here alone and waiting. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI'm 21 and have realized how much of a loser I was and still am. I have missed out on a ton of sex and relationships. The kind of things I will never get to experience when I'm older. Oh well...
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reader, puds123  +, writes (16 July 2008):
honestly your not missing out on anything you shouldnt have sex until you find the person who just makes you melt inside the person who you truely love otherwise you will just be having sex instead of making love and girls arent like some guys they dont judge you on whether you have a lot of sex or no sex at all generally we prefer guys who dont sleep with lots of people!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2008): Oh please don't rush into something that could haunt you for the rest of your life. You are a young guy, and presumably a virgin. Keep it that way! Having sex doesn't make you a man, it makes you a user of women. To truly love a woman is making love to them. I pray that you will stick to you convictions and wait for the right woman. You will never regret it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2008): I think you should relax, you are young; there is no set age by when you have to have sex; anyway, why rush into something like that because everybody else is doing it?
Relax, enjoy life; at the right time with the right person!
Keep well!
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reader, bfire  +, writes (21 June 2008):
Hey I am 23 and only had sex ONCE when I was 17. My last girlfriend I had when I was 17, a month away from 18. It has been so long I feel I basically forgot what it is like. I am tall and good looking, but truth be told I have just been doing other things and haven't found the right girl or situation yet I guess. Also I am 100% fine with premarital sex, and truth be told think it is probably a good idea.I am pretty shy, so never knew how to pick up girls. My first girlfriend who I dated for a year when I was 15 I was hooked up from friends. I really liked her, since I was actually in grade school, so for like 5 years, but was young and I guess just not totally ready for a deep relationship. I think I only kissed her twice during that year, which I will admittedly say was a mistake. My girlfriend at 17 asked me out. Since then, nothing, and I mean NOTHING has happened. I moved, finished up High School at 18. Started College at 19.I see many beautiful women but don't talk to them, or if I do, never in a way to become a potential girlfriend. I also see girls I had possible chances with, but just too shy to take the chance.So this coming 4 years in the future, I can feel your pain. I too also am starting to see this window close. It seems like people are having sex all the time. It seems I am inexperienced compared to the average.First let me state, sometimes it is better not to be the average. Average people are not rare and are easy to come by. So don't compare yourself to everyone else. I know, sounds like some crap to make you feel better, but really I think this is true.Also most guys that I talked to, although have had many girlfriends and had sex many times, although happy in some respects are sad because most of those girls they didn't really love, and in fact were not someone special. It is better to find someone you love and trust, and feel comfortable with, especially if it is your first time. My first and ONLY time wasn't with a girl I loved, although I thought she was O.K. and cared for her. I just didn't love her, I actually loved the girl I dated at 15, who I only kissed twice, way more and regret my previous actions still today.These days kids, and I say KIDS, are having sex much earlier. Some starting at 14ish. I think the average age for people range from 16-18 when they start becoming sexually active. The best time I think is around 19-25. Usually by this time you have a bit more grasp on reality, and are most likely emotionally ready. Also I feel this is also prime age for expressing oneself sexually. Young, but fully developed physically, etc. etc. Now for how you are feeling. Don't worry about it. Who cares what your friends are getting. I know you want to see what the rest of your peers are doing, but what is right for someone may not be right for you at the moment.Best advise I can give. Stop worrying so much about getting laid. First set your priorities on finding someone you like, and then love. And then have sex. Especially for your first time. I am hoping I get into a relationship soon. DEFINITELY before I turn 24. So that means within the next year.But as for you, don't regret anything yet. You are only 19. Which I think is still very young. When you hit 23, like me, or 24, start worrying more. Until then just enjoy life, and see what happens. Talk to girls that you may find interesting and don't sit alone waiting, go out and talk to people. Waiting works sometimes, but your chances are better if you act. But overall, I would say your window of opportunity isn't up until after 25. And then it still isn't up depending on how you age and your personality/lifestyle. But I know it can be depressing, but don't let it get to you. Hope this helps.
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reader, XxAnGelXxx +, writes (21 June 2008):
 You dont have to rush into anything you know, and its totally normal and there are many people out there who are in exactly the same situation, there's not really an age where people have sex the most, it varies from person to person, dont worry about it, someone will come along if you look in the right places, and when you do find that someone im sure you'll be able to answer your own question then!
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