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writes:I have a sex question. Me and my boyfriend have been together 6 years, he is the only person I've ever slept with- about 6 months ago when he have sex my vagina started making a "farting" noise- used to it would only do this in doggie style. For one, is this normal? And two, what can I tell my boyfriend- he is accusing me of cheating and having sex with someone bigger than him so it "loosened up" and he doesnt "fit right" anymore. I've never slept with anyone else and everytime it happens I cant enjoy the sex bc he starts getting mad bc he thinks I've been cheating!
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reader, kellyxxx  +, writes (5 July 2009):
 Someone who has cheated previously on another partner is automatically insecure about in in other relationships which they care about as they know how easy it is to do! They know the mind set of a cheater, however they don't know that not all partners have this mind set! I've experienced this with my own boyfriend, I've had problems with trust issues and paranoia because I have cheated in previous relationships. Its worth talking to your partner and reassuring him as much as you can that you don't have the mentality to cheat on him! X
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 July 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for answering, I think a lot of his accusations come from his own insecurities because he has cheated in the past :( I try convincing him- he says he believes me but I can tell he really doesn't.
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (4 July 2009):
 You might become looser simply by age and by use. He might also no longer have the erections he once had.
The "farting" is just air being trapped and being pushed out. It happens.
Does he really think a persons body doesn't change in 6 years? That you will always be a thight teen virgin? Tell him to take a reality pill.
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reader, GrimmReality +, writes (4 July 2009):
 Yep, Kelly is right. Although just about any position can produce the "quiffing effect"(yes its a crude term but we are adults here...I hope). It is a natural thing because of the onrush of air inside the vagina
Unfortunately with males this seems to be synonymous with the thought that the female is "loose". But it has nothing to do with it. And I must say that your boyfriend needs to pay attention to reality rather than locker room banter. he must either have his own issues to be so accusatory or just a nincompoop. I think its a combination of both.
since I guess you wont be able to convince him, and this may seem a strange step to take, but even if you have to go online and look up some articles and print them out to prove to him that you aren't cheating, go ahead and do it. It may seem a drastic measure, but if you cant enjoy the act of sex because of this badgering, then it sure as hell is not fair to you.
Here is one I found for you so you can begin to allay his fears.
http://ehealthforum.com/health/quiffing-t178415.html
http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/471284
Hope this helps in some way. If it doesnt, then I suggest you find someone that is a little more mature.
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reader, baddogbj  +, writes (4 July 2009):
 Your boyfriend is an imbecile and a fairly insecure one at that.
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reader, kellyxxx +, writes (4 July 2009):
When havong sex doggy style air can get trapped in the vagina, its called queefing (I think) and this is probably what made you feel bigger to him, the vagina was just full of air. When he enters you and thrusts the air can be expelled and make this funny sound. Its perfectly natural. The vagina doesn't just open up after intercourse with someone bigger, its stretchy and it would happen over time! He's an idiot for not trusting you so show him this and then it should explain to him what's happening! X
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reader, chuwariwaps  +, writes (4 July 2009):
 i also have this experience whenever we do that doggie style also..but i only have one partner so it doesnt mean that you have that "farting noise" it means that you are cheating. i dont know if this also have a medical explanation for this.i hope anyone could help us.
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