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writes:im a 16 year old girl whos in love with a 24 year old guy. ya see he works out a dirtbiking place i go camping at every weekend with my dad. when he has to go out on the trails to do sumtin he usually drags me out there and we just stand there and he holds me and we just enjoy each others company. i hate it though because he lives 40 minutes away from me and my parents have already stated hes wayyyyyyyyyyyy too old for me. thank god my dads too stupid to realise we like each other! hes not one of those bad guys who are players or cheaters or sumtin. hes a genuine good guy. i kno i shud wait until im 18 but i cant. ill be a senior thinking about colleges and if i do still have a relationship with him then it wont be for long at all, especially since i gotta go out of state to go after paleontology and then with a job ill be away from home! at some point though if things work out 100% great i might just drop my future to be with the man i luv (not thinking about it yet tho!)so yea... any advice besides wait or just be careful?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2009): this is not a good idea you cannot give your life up for someone if its ment to be it will happen but if you give up everything then if something goes wrong with you and him what do you have? nothing.
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reader, rcn +, writes (14 November 2007):
 I would still wait until you're 18. At your age, your hormones are going to be doing jumping jacks. With that, your going to begin being an adult. Don't play adult, until it's time to be one.
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reader, kittykatty97 +, writes (14 November 2007):
kittykatty97 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionok just right quick let me add something. i DONT plan on giving up my future. i honest to god have no idea why i said that in my question and i hate the title they chose. my question isnt centered around 'should i give up my future to be with him?' its just if you guys have any comments or advice to give me. srry bout that!
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reader, i might be a girl but i can help  +, writes (13 November 2007):
 just think if you droped everything for him and than everything has gone down hill how are you going to feel, go to college and get an education, you could probably see him now and again but do you really want to give up on everything you have achieved for some guy, when there are plently of them out there who are better sorted for you. yes the biker dude seems cool bit of a rebel but he will miss up your life and your future be his friend and get on with your life.
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reader, rcn +, writes (13 November 2007):
Ok then. How about this. He's not too old for you, you're too young for him.
Let me tell you a bit of my history, before taking charge of my own life. I was 18, got offered a job in a big city, great income (2500.00 per week) I turned it down because my girlfriend didn't want to live there. I am now a musician, when I was fresh out of school I gave up going to a music college in Hollywood, CA. That would have kicked of my dreams 15 years before.
I want you to understand something as well. Legal age is still 18. How would you feel if you went on with this, and did something you're not suppose to and you got to go to college, and this boy received a one way trip to prison? Therefore, since there would be a chance of something like that happening, wouldn't it be selfish of you to be part of taking that chance with his life?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 November 2007): Think of the worst case scenario if you drop everything. are you sure its worth it? maybe you should get to know him better before you give everything up to him. this is a big decision and you should think about it lots before you do anything, because if it doesnt worstout, it could really affect your future. my advice is get to know him better, and reallymake sure hes a good guy that you can trust.
good luck xoxo
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 November 2007): The only advice you need is to take it slow.
And don't whatever you do give up your own future for the sake of one person, and lets face it if he asks you to choose between him and your family he was never worth a pinch of shit.
And the very fact you use such appalling grammar proves you are way, way too immature to have a relationship with someone his age. Now I know how it feels to care very deeply for someone you can't have, lord knows I fell in love with a girl when she was 14 (now 16-17) and I was 22, but I wasn't naive or dumb enough to allow myself to do anything. So age isn't my issue here.
But you can't throw away a perfectly good future for some guy/girl no matter how great they seem to be. It never, almost never, works out.
Flynn 19
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