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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:i really like my flatmate at uni. he is funny and hot. we get along, but he gets along much more with my other female faltmate. he will always be in her room and arrange things with her, such as when to go out and wher and then talks about it with the rest of us. also, he usually cooks for me and my other female flatmate, nut basically, if she does not want to eat or is not hungry, he will not cook, and won't even ask me. i do everything i possibly can to make him happy, such as his laundry, washing up, cleaning up after him and absolutely anything he asks whenever he asks. i don't know if this is a bad thing bbecause my other female flatmate does none of this an yet he still prefers her. i am basically like his slave and he still prefers her. I don't know what to do. Should i stop doing everything for him?? How should i stop and make him like me more than my other flatmate. i"m not in a position to go and tell him becuse we don't have that sort of a relationship, but i really really like him and get really jealous when hes around my female flatmate. he teases me as well as her, but I don't know wht i can do now as i have done everything i possibly can to try t make him happy. Is that wrong? should i stop?What should i do to make him like me more than my flatmate baring in mind that we both live with him and he chooses to spend more time with her? Help!!!!
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (9 February 2008):
 I think he is more attracted to your flat mate than to you.If that is the case, then you cannot do anything about it . You need to accept the reality of that situation.
When you sensed that you cannot win his attentions over your flat mate,better to throw in your towels.
Secondly, you way of pleasing him by doing his chores is not appropriate.You are not appreciated or valued and you should stop doing everything for him.
He either has to do it himself or your flatmate may have to do it. Most probably , your flatmate may not be that dumb to do those chores for him.
When you don't do things for him , you will have more time and maybe he may find some time with you.
In the Bible, there was a story of two sisters. When Jesus entered their house, the younger sister sat at His feet and paid all attentions to HIM.
But the elder sister busied herself with the cooking and what nots and neglected her guest. So who do you think He liked better?
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