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writes:i'm 16 and am so attracted to someone but he is 26 what should i do he also likes me but he is worried what people are going to say. we have talked about this but have never even kissed because he is worried so i want your opinions on if you think this is ok Reply to this Question
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reader, Just a Girl... +, writes (1 May 2007):
 hey huni xim 16 and my boyfriend is 25, so i can sort of relate. All ive got to say babe is that as long as your prepared for the oppinions of people who relli have no life and who think of themselves as angels, go for it.Isnt it better that you be with someone who will treat you like a princess and take care of you even though hes older, than be with someone who is your age but is horrible??my mum had a few issues with my relationship before she got to know him, now 3 months later she really likes him because she sees past his age.gud luck hun xxx
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reader, beautifulllove  +, writes (23 April 2007):
 well hi my sister was in the same situation she was 16 when she met her husban that was 26 and the ten year apart was hard but they got 2 children and live together and there just 21 and 31 now but i believe she missed out on alot but they really love each other and thats just something you have to face and see if it will work. but i say this dont do anything you wont want later in life my frist love was 20 when i was 16 and i got tired of him treating me loike a child and he was verly 3 and a half years older so you just never know it depends on the person.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 April 2007): hi there anonymous ...we're cut from the same cloth sweetie... see if it IS love...then he must wait atleast till you're 21... n he probably will if u instinctively feel its love... The age difference wont be a problem ...and afterall age is nothing but a number...there are even more unconventional love stories out there....
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 April 2007): i kind of have the same problem except the difference b/w me & him is 6-7 years. i dont have a problem with this but im worried if hed wait for me.
i would want to get married at around 24/25. and when im 24, he'll be 31.
would he want to wait that long? he might find another girl before then. i say this because were really not serious and he could find another girl other than me.
also for you, @ 20, youll be in the middle of college, and @ 30 for him, he'll be settled down with career and all. its just somethin i myself wouldnt want to do. id want to experience the same things my boyfriend is. id want to learn things together. but thats just me. if you rather someone who can teach you and is a lot more experienced than you, go for it! good luck honey!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 April 2007): i kind of have the same problem except the difference b/w me & him is 6-7 years. i dont have a problem with this but im worried if hed wait for me.
i would want to get married at around 24/25. and when im 24, he'll be 31.
would he want to wait that long? he might find another girl before then. i say this because were really not serious and he could find another girl other than me.
also for you, @ 20, youll be in the middle of college, and @ 30 for him, he'll be settled down with career and all. its just somethin i myself wouldnt want to do. id want to experience the same things my boyfriend is. id want to learn things together. but thats just me. if you rather someone who can teach you and is a lot more experienced than you, go for it! good luck honey!
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reader, kenny +, writes (23 April 2007):
 I must agree with the reader anonymous you still have so much to do and see, and i feel you will be missing out on a great deal.
When you are 20 and he is 30 this puts things in a whole different perspective.
Of course this is just my opinion, you must do what you feel in you heart of hearts is right.
All the best of luck x
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 April 2007): I understand and sympathize with your situation BUT at the age you are right now as a MOM I say....No way. In a few years the age difference won't matter but at 16 you have so much to look forward to. A 26 year old man will want a commitment and possibly more (marriage). I speak somewhat from experience. I married at 16 to a 23 year old. Now I have been married 28 years but I missed out on so much in my teenage years.
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