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writes:Well ummm, my internet boyfriend and me have been going out for two years now, we met on imvu, he lives in south grafton, nsw, and i live in adelaide, sa.While we were on facebook one day, he proposed to me (he's 15 turning 16 and i'm 14 by the way) and now i want to meet him more than anything, i just love him too much, he feels the same way, I just need some advice, my mum doesn't like him but i don't care, my dads alright with him, but they don't know bout him proposing to me.I know he's 15 cause he sent me pics.I just really need some advice.I keep on getting urges to run away and find him, but i just really love him.Please help me!Emily
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reader, Noneone  +, writes (23 July 2010):
Hey,I know this is quite a late reply, but if it helps;I'm in a LDR, I know the feelings you're having... at least, I can relate to them. You might love this guy alot, but don't rush to marriage.You should meet up sometimes, long term, short term, do stuff together.In my mind it seems normal to be with someone you love for at least 5-10 years before you marry him/her, mostly because it has to be something you have to be sure of.Meet up with eachother the first time with either of your parents (He visits you at home, or you visit him at home), after that you could start planning trips, vacations, and eventually even living together (If your language, work and school allow it, honestly, do not quit school for this.)Then after a few years, and only after that you can know if you are ready, and capable of being together for the rest of your life (Marriage is not something you want to do more than once, you'll feel alot better finding the right person to marry).Hope this helps.
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reader, RockChick2010  +, writes (9 April 2010):
Hi hun :) I'm sorry to burst your bubble, but most internet men aren't what they seem. Anyone can lie about who they are over the internet. Why? Because they can. I swear if there was any other way to see these people's faces it would be easier. Meeting a guy near you may be a better deal. Try searching at your school. At least then you will know the guy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2010): Omg do not run away please,u hav no idea who this guy is for all u kno he could be a peaadophile,murder etc,just a few months ago a 17 year old girl met sum guy on fb believin tht he was the same age as her nd met up with him,well this is what happend next,he raped her,then murdered her.I'm not trying to scare u but seriouisly there's nutters out therre,if you really want to meet up with then take along your dad or another adult,as this guy could be dangerous especially if he's proposing to u,this to me ses he's gt a screw loose,sorry to b harsh but I'd hate somfin bad to happen to yax
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (6 April 2010):
 Ignoring the fact that this person is probably not who he says he is (have you heard of internet groomers?) 15 is way way way too young to be married. I got married at 28 and I still feel as though I missed out on some things. I know you feel as though you are in love with this guy but that kind of intense love disappears very fast when reality sets in. Get away from your computer and start dating some real people and get some life experience. I know it doesn't seem like it to you at the moment but trust me life is very short and you don't want to waste it marrying someone at 15 and regreting it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2010): Hi Emily
I agree you should run... run away from him as fast as you can.
You are flattered to have this other person fancy you right now. Running away is not like it seems in the Disney movies. Run away girls often end up in bad relationships, and are beaten, abused, prostituted and often die young. You are only 14 and he is 15. Neither of you have the tools you need to survive in this world and earn a living. What kind of work is out there for a 14 year old girl, living on her own, without any formal education or job skills? Perhaps prostitution?
Wake up and end the fairy tale and join the real world, where you must earn a living to survive and to earn a living you must get an education and mature.
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reader, Ich_liebe_dich  +, writes (6 April 2010):
 Meet him in person, stayed just friends, dont go deeper than that, theres no rush on 14, 15 years old.. better concentrate in school. if you two love each other, made plan TOGETHER, enjoy the teenage time, finish the school, get educated, get a good job, have a good income, experience the life and society, get matured. if all of this done and you two still hanging on to each other" it means you two really meant for each other, then move to the next level of relationship, getting married".. in that time you will two live happily ever after just like fairy tail. I Wish you luck sweety...
p.s.
Mother always try to think whats the best for there love ones...
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (6 April 2010):
 You don't want to end up with your picture on a milk carton or hanging on the post office wall,do you? Those pics he sent you could have been of anyone. HE could be anyone. I think an "internet boyfriend" is a misnomer. How can you have a boyfriend whom you've never met in person? If you want to meet up, invite him to your home to meet your parents. I'll bet he'll turn down that invitation in a jiffy. Proposing to a 14 year old shows already that he isn't quite right in the head. Listen to your parents and hang out with your friends, enjoy your youth and freedom.
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reader, Tasmanian devil +, writes (6 April 2010):
 Just because he sent you pictures does not mean hes 15, he could be a lot older and dangerous. Thats probably why your mum has reservations. If you really want to meet him, i think you should do so, with your dad in a public place, that way your parents are assured and you'll be safe
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2010): When making these decision, don't get swept up with your emotions. The thing is, in this situation, you can make sensible decisions, and if it's true love, the love will still be there.Personally, I would advise that if you do love him, to wait for a while. I understand you feel really comfortable with him, but you haven't met him yet. As hard as it is to accept, people online are different to how they act in real life. When you're online you can omit the parts you don't like about yourself. The thing is, if it is true love, then why hurry, why get engaged/married now. You have the rest of your lives.And I hate to say it, but I don't know one person who has stayed with the person they met when they were 13-15. People change. If you wait for a while, you can wait to see if it is real true love. Also, please be careful if you do meet someone off the internet. Take someone with you the first few times.
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reader, The Gentle Man +, writes (6 April 2010):
 Well there is no easy and gentle way to break it to you, so im just going to lay it out.1. It isnt a real proposal. You will not end up getting married. You are just kids who have gotten all caught up with one another. In a few years you will come to realise this.2. You think he is 15. I could send you pics that say im a 14 year old girl, it doesnt make it true. He could be legit, but you have absolutely NO way of knowing who he is. He could be a 45 year old man who is grooming you.Do not run away. You might feel like this, but it can not only be dangerous to you but will likely end up getting you in serious trouble.If he is in travelling distance, you can try to meet up with him and take your dad (only with an adult accompanying you).If not, trust me, you will get over this internet romance.
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