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writes:hi,im 14 years old and i have a 21 year old boyfriend, i see him all the time and i love him alot. its not really a problem though cause if i didnt want to see him i would of told him to **** off. anyways, my friend has been to his house with me, but she doesnt know that he is my boyfriend. i told her i do business with him like selling stuff for him etc. when she was there i kissed him goodbye secretly. so i see him like 3 times a week or so but not all the time cause he has to go work. the real problem i have is that my family doesnt know, everytime i want to go to his house i have to tell my parents that im going to my friends house to study, for an hour. btw he lives quite near me.another thing, i am a virgin, and he knows, he kiss and make love but i am not ready to have sex and he understands, but now i really wanna have sex with him. what should i do? please reply. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 April 2007): well...i think it depends upon how long you've been together...i'm telling you no,you need to wait and you need to make sure he is the ONE, because who knows he could just be one of thse guys looking 4 underage teen just for sex.he probably doesn't love you like you think he does, you need to focus on boys your own age and go out and be with friends,most high school relationships dont last,and this is your virginity it;s supposed to be special.it will hurt and since he is older it probly isnt a good idea,he will go to jail if sum1 finds out
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 April 2007): depending on how long you've been together i kinda know how you feel, my boyfriend is older than me but we've been together nearly a year and we havn't had sex yet, he's old enough to have sex but I'm only 14. we've talked about it seriously and decided we are gonna wait until I'm atleast 15, I advise you to talk seriously with your boyfriend about sex, but if you havn't been together very long I wouldn't. hope everything goes ok hunny :) xx
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reader, DrCynic  +, writes (12 April 2007):
 Sweetheart, you can't do it yet... If for no other reason than he could go to jail.
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reader, paranoid007 +, writes (8 April 2007):
Hi, right first, there is a bit difference between the age gap of you and your boyfriend. How long have you been with him?? If you decide to sleep with him you could get yourself into alot of trouble with the police and could get pregnant. I only know this coz my mate was 13 when she had sex with her 20 year old boyfreind and she got pregnant 1st time even though she used protection. I would say dont do it, not until your 16, you may feel ready but your body wont be. I think you feel ready coz yoou may love your boyfriend and really want to be with him for a long time...but face it, all lads are out for this day is one thing. Dont do it hun. x
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reader, BABY-FACE +, writes (8 April 2007):
 hey well to start off as me being a girl..i understand.. but these days people dont know what real love is...if he loves you..i hope that hes willing to die for you.give you all the love he has to give..never cheat on you..and if anything happends to you.. he will always love you
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hewuld understand and wait until your the proper age...dont just do it because you say you love him...or because other girls do it.. respect yourself..because as teenagers we make mistakes.. we confuse real love with crushes..and hes a little too older than you..how do you notknow he might not have an other girlfriend or something..because there are a lot of guys that just want to "get some"..and play with girls feelings..just wait until you know you found "the one" ...good luck..: )
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reader, donal +, writes (5 April 2007):
i really think that you need to focus on boys your own age but sayin that i think if you kno this guys loved you and is not sleeping with other women... wait another few months..and if your still with him..have sex.... let him wait..it will tell you that he does love you...make sure he tells his family about you too and you tell yours.. it could work out for the best!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2007): wow like he's older than you a lot.. I think if you think that he loves you.. do ahead have sex nut like he mite not love you and he could be havin sex with other women lik so you mite be getting used..think hard about it!
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reader, _Hannah_ +, writes (5 April 2007):
Tell You What loveh. I went out with a 22 year old when i was 15.I wasnt a virgin when I met him, and because of his morals and the law we never had sex.
I lost my virginity when i was 15. Biggest mistake of my life. Honestly. You might think its a thrill to do it underage, but its better when your legal, and safer.
In The End No one can change your mind. Your gunna do what you want to do, but bare in mind. if something goes wrong and you get pregnant, He can get in alot of trouble.
Peace.Out.
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reader, maxsteel86 +, writes (5 April 2007):
 *sigh* this question seems to come up here a lot recently... and the answers are always the same. Wait till 16
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2007): I think you should tell your friends ! because if you don't they might befriend you of lack of trust ! belive me i know these things... just tell them and let them know your sorry you did'nt tell them before x then get there opion seen as though there your FRIENDS x love you x
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reader, home_land  +, writes (4 April 2007):
 hello,you are 14 and he is 21 ,so if your family will know about that you will make all of them look bad becouse "you want "to have sex in this age ,and with 14 you are a child legally so that means you have to grow up and stop going there .becouse your family put trust in you so dont lose their respect to you and for them to lose the respect of the senceable Socity .thenk and be good to your family.god bless you.
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reader, kenny +, writes (4 April 2007):
 Whats the rush, you are only 14. And you are two years below the age of consent. You 21 year old boyfriend could get in to some serious trouble if he were found out, even face a prison sentence for having sex with a minor.
Wait till you are 16 then it can be all legal.
Good luck x
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reader, Midge +, writes (4 April 2007):
 The first thing that comes to mind is "Jail". If you and he have sex, since you are a minor, he could go straight to jail. If you care so much about him, then you'll do the sensible thing and wait till you are no longer a minor.
There are too many kids in this country, and in this world that are having sex at a young age, way before they can actually comprehend what they have done. Your virginity is not something to be handed over on a silver platter, its something that once gone, its gone!
I think that you are far too young to be having any relationship with a 21 year old. And he should have enough common sense not to have any "relationship" with you too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOkay people, thanks for the comments. I'll wait until I am 16!!!
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reader, dollparts  +, writes (4 April 2007):
 Not a good idea hun think about this your virginaty is something that you can't get back so I would wait until your 16 so that you know he truly loves you and so you guys wont get in to trouble
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2007): If you ended up having sex with him he could end up in serious trouble with the police. You don't want that do you? So stick to kissing him until you are at the legal age of 16. Anyways, why do you want to lose your virginity at such an early age? Wait until you are at least 16 before losing it with your boyfriend. By waiting not only will it make your virginity more special but it will also give you a chance to see whether your relationship is good enough to survive without it or not. If you are still with him a couple of years later then you'll know that he wasn't just using you for sex.
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reader, missin her +, writes (4 April 2007):
 dont do it im 15 and my girl may be pregnant and u cant risk those kinds of things...ure mad young so if he understands just wait till u get older and he can get in trouble if u two get caught also i dont know if u should tell ure family or not cause i dont know how they would react
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