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writes:hi my name is desiree and i stress every day its so much drama that go on in my life i been through alot and im having a baby and i no im kinda young but i think i can handle it because i carry myself as a young ladie dont get into no more drama and i dont fight!!!! but it so much pair pressure on my hands right now i was so scard to tell my mom but i finally told her than i said i was goin to get an abortion but i really wanna keep it wat should i do me and my boyfriend is very happy wit each other and im not the type of girl that going to drop out of school imma go every day if i have to
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reader, maddiee-maii  +, writes (18 March 2010):
i had twins when i was your age apart from my mam died when i was 10, my dad hated me i lived with my aunt and she kicked me out when she found out..i have had my twins i am now 18 they are 4 .. my boy is disabled and need around the clock care ... i have no one i have to keep my baby alive (thats drama but i wouldnt change it)
nobody is gona say it would be easy i get spat at in the street you dont have time for drama here is my day could u deal with it 365 days a year no days off
4.00am..i get up and go in the bath
4.15am..i get clothes on
4.30am..my breakfast and a sit down
5.00am..get my two babys clothes out and there breakfast ready
5.30am..james my disabled son up i get him washed teeth brushed and ready and all his lifesaving injections and medication (10 all together.
6.30am..get grace my little girl up ready washed teeth brushed hair done all while watching james.
7.30am..i do some house work
9.30am..we go for a walk because my little boy likes been outside it calms him
11.00am..i make dinner james has to be on a special diet no freezer stuff it has to be propper cooked meals
12.00am.. we eat
1.00pm..kids have naps i do some of my work i am doing from home
2.30pm kids wake up and i play and iteract with them
3.30pm we go down to get an icecream and for me a cup of coffee in town
5.00pm make tea
5.45pm we eat
6.30pm i bath grace
7.00pm i bath james and give him more medication
7.30pm i put them both to bed, read them a story
8.00pm clean the house and sort the post out
9.00pm i go to bed
could you deal with that every day seriously
because somtimes i just brake down
you dont no how many children you are going to
have and whether you are going to get a disabled child
i didnt think that but i did i have no family history of
disabled people same on his side he didnt want nothin to do with them
i am not telling you to abort i think you should do what you think you can cope with but as long as you can love your child thats great
i wish you all the look hope this helps
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reader, Miamine +, writes (18 March 2010):
 Drama!!!! Sigh!! Having a baby will stop all that, you won't have time for friends let alone the drama they create. A baby is a 24hour job, if you keep the child, expect to be working long hours(night time feeds, nappy changing, cleaning baby, washing clothes etc) and feeling very lonely for a while.
Your choice, but please contact planned parenthood, Laura has given you the number. They can help you make the best decision for you. A baby might not suit your situation right now.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (18 March 2010):
 Who's going to pay all bills if you keep it?
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reader, kayla20 +, writes (18 March 2010):
 does your boyfriend want the baby?you need to tell your mother that you are having second thoughts about abortion however i think your too young to be able to stick to your own decision because you are not yet classed as an adult as such i think your mother has the right to decide for you.you need to explain to your mother that although you have made a mistake you would rather deal with it than take the easy option out with abortion you need to make her understand that you dont think its going to be an easy ride and you know it is going to be very difficult and make her aware that you and your boyfriend might not last but you dont want to put your bf through an abortion and kill something which didnt ask to be here in the first place.you will have to understand that if your mum agrees to you keeping the child that schooling could be difficult for you as yourl have to take responsibility for the child and not palm it off on your mother and that other children in the school may pick on you because of your age good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 March 2010): If you want to keep your baby then I urge you to keep your baby. I'm 20 and just recently had a baby. I've also had an abortion and it was the most painful thing, both physically and mentally. I still get sad about it. Having a baby is no cake walk, and is even harder to do while you are still in school.( But totally worth it! My baby just started to really smile, its the cutest thing ever! But be warned unless ur bf is there with u around the clock, you may not get much sleep lol) My advice to you is when you hit your thrid trimester at seven or eight months see if you can get into the independant studies program. You only have to go to school at the very most three times a week, but only for maybe 4 or 5 hours. They send you home with all your school work for the week. It just makes it a lot easier during your pregnancy and after you have your baby. I hope that helps you :)
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (18 March 2010):
If you want to keep the baby, then keep it. However, it's not as easy as you think it is, there's A LOT more to it than falling into drama that comes with parenthood. And yes, please stay in school because it's called peer pressure and I won't get into the other grammatical errors as this isn't an English class...but do what you can to become a good example for your child. It sounds like you're on your way or at least trying.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 March 2010): If you want to keep the baby, you need to tell your mother this ASAP so you can start getting the proper prenatal care. It's going to be tough and you're going to have to grow up fast, so you may as well start acting like an adult now and start planning how you are going to go to school, work and support an infant.
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reader, jada101 +, writes (18 March 2010):
 Honey if u want 2 keep ur child then do so because @ the end of the day its ur body ur feelin that a are going 2 b hurt if u don't keep this child but allso just 2 let u know ur life will change a lot lots im 21 years I have 4 year and if I could had waited I would had but if I would had gave my baby up I know I would not been able 2 live with that I finsh school missed lots of partys but im happy with what I did keepin my child
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (18 March 2010):
 If you don't want to go for an abortion , no one can force you to do it. It is your baby. Don't feel pressured into making a quick decision.
Contact your pregnancy help centers nearby who can give you the support you need and what are your options.
Pregnancy Crisis Centre which is 07958 452294
So you can contact us by either using the above number, e-mail us on [email address blocked]
http://www.oasisdartford.org.uk/pregnancy.htm
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 March 2010): so what is your question hunny? Mal
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