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writes:hi. i am 14 and my boyfriend is 17. we have been together for 11 monthsz now and almost a year.the thing is he always gets mad over little things and always thinks i am lying to him...he doesnt trust me at all.and this one time he got really mad and pushed me to the floor.another is when he is mad he gets out of control.. he says he hates me..^ and *k you.. he wants to break up..and he only uses me for things. like a baby money phone computer..but then when he isnt mad he is all loveyy doveyy..and always thinks about sex and always has boners..and we have sex all the time.. with no protection.. i thought i was pregnant once but i wasnt and he always takes control over me i dont know what to do can anyone help me?please?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2009): Baby girl...you need to get rid of that piece of no good chewed up brainwashing dude...Because the only thing he is going to continue to do is hurt you even more,make you feel like you've done something out of place, and make you feel like you are in the wrong. I am 14 also, and I wish my boyfriend would try to do some kind of ish' like that..I mean my ex-boyfriend and I have been knowing each other for 1 year coming up next month and he use to TRY to play kidish games and TRY to cheat and thought that I never caught on to them but I did. But anyways honey, you need to find someone that is going to love you for you and who is going to treat you right and who is NOT going to use you for the things you can do or the things you have. [private email removed per site guidelines]
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 July 2009): After the sex, he doesn't want to be bothered. When you're pregnant, he'll say you're fat and ugly. Will he have money to buy diapers for your baby in a few months time? Will he or anyone else want you when you have stretch marks?
Surround yourself with GOOD friends, join a Youth Ministry - At 14 I was planning to go to Law School! If he's not the best in his class dump him!!!
I've been there - done that.
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reader, KateLvsS.V.S  +, writes (10 July 2009):
 hunni...why are you still with him?!...dump him now!
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reader, Danii-N-Dale  +, writes (10 July 2009):
 U may love him but he is abusing u over the littlest things ,, you deserve bettah hunny
i would say maybe give him a break for a while,, if he loves u as much as u love him he will come crawling back.
-Danielle And Sophie x
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reader, love-struckxo  +, writes (10 July 2009):
 Boys like this will only brainwash you. They will control you and fight with you, and then twist it around to make you seem like the bad guy.
The worst part is - you start believing it. You analyze every situation and think, well maybe if I wouldn't done this, he wouldn't of done this, and you think YOU are the problem.
Well guess what, you aren't and the sooner you realize it, the better off you will be. Until you do realize that you are better off without him, you will remain with him, no matter what anyone says.
Anybodys input will make you cry and think "they are just trying to tear us apart, and make it so I can't see him anymore! They don't want us to be together, and they don't really understand!"
Sound familar?
Truth is, everybody around you can see what's happening, but you are brainwashed and are totally oblivious.
You asking this question though is a good first step. You can obviously see what's going on and you want it to stop.
Unfortuantly, the other way you can stop this from happening is to leave him. It will never get better, no matter how many times he promises to change. When the bad starts to outweigh the good is when it's time to leave.
Actually, you should of walked away the moment he put his hands on you!
I was in an abusive relationship for a long time, so I've been there and back, message me if you want to talk.
Good luck
I hope I have helped
xx
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reader, thatgothgirl20 +, writes (10 July 2009):
 Let him go.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (10 July 2009):
 Mimi, have you talked to your parents about this? Your mom or dad? I think they would be the first place to start. Please read this link very very carefully and recognize how you can start to disassociate yourself from loserman.
http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171&limitstart=2
And you should not feel embarassed in the slightest about this; this is not your fault. You just need some help getting rid of Mr. Loserman.
Do you have older brothers or sisters, or aunts and uncles? Some close friend or relative who can help you extricate yourself from this abusive boy. Alternatively, you could look at this site and see if there are good, safe strategies to getting OUT.
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reader, conswalo wasabi +, writes (10 July 2009):
Get out of this relationship before you end up hurt and he ends up in jail. This is not only illegal but it is a no brainer you know you shouldn't be with this guy you the one saying his using you so that must be the way you feel also.
I say get out now before it either to late because your pregnant or because something really bad happens. You can do better than him and you know you will if you try a little. You shouldn't really be having sex at your age as your only 14 come on sort your life out.
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