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writes: I have liked a teacher from my high school for about 4 years now. Im almost 20 and hes 28. Ive dated older so the age difference doesnt bother me. I graduated in 2007 and i kept in touch with him by email and i would visit from time to time (Btw he was never my teacher). I finally stopped and decided not to bother because i felt like i was wasting my time and i wasnt getting over him. In my freshman year of college when i went to visit him we were talking about relationships and how i like older guys and he was talking about what kind of people he was looking for and then he hinted at himself for me and i just looked at him and hes like no i cant do that what am i supposed to say o this is britney i met her at school? That night i couldnt stop thinking about it and i told him how i felt and he said he didnt want to jeopardize anything but he said not to feel akward and to keep in touch which i did until last halloween and after that i stopped. I was doing so well and i felt like i was getting over him even though he would cross my mind every day i learned to ignore it until recently when i saw a pic of him and it brought me back to the reality that i still like him and i feel like theres something wrong with me. Ive met a lot of guys and had a bf but i compared my feelings for the teacher with the ones i had for the other guys and they didnt compare. It had been 8 months till i contacted him and after that picture i couldnt resist emailing him and saying hello. He basically said he thought i forgot about him and asked how i was and told me to keep in touch. I asked what he was doing for the summer and he ointed out how hes going pretty close to where i am going the same exact week. I almost think it was fate cuz i was supposed to go the week before but my plans got screwed up. I just ran into him today at a camp he works at and he was surprised to see me but we didnt talk that much cuz another guy who worked at the school was with him and i purposely talked to the other guy to show i didnt care that much but inside i was dying. But he kept looking at me and when i had to go hes like your leaving already? I played it off so well but i was freaking out inside. Just being in his presence again was amazing for me. My question is, i wanted to ask him if we could meet up when we both are away to hang out or hint it at him. Im afraid though that he'll say no and then im going to make it akward but i just cant stop thinking about it. I dont want to regret not asking cuz this may be one of the only times we would ever truly be alone without interruptions and if i got to talk to him, it would help me realize whether we actually have something or if its time i fianlly let him go. So should I go back to see him or email him and ask if we could meet up, should I try to hint at it and ask him what there is to do around there and tell him how Im going to be alone without my parents for a night and see if he asks me to hang out, or should i not say anything and leave it alone? People may say that if we were meant to be together we wouldnt have met in a school setting where its hard to have a relationship even after i graduate but this is more than a crush i would say. I went almost a year without contact and one picture brought it all back...i dont know what to do. Im sorry this is so long. Thank you for taking the time to read it.
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reader, kitty_3 +, writes (17 July 2009):
 yes, congrats! and do tell us if you guys end up meeting up!and thanks for the inspiring words... i do feel like my teacher and i are supposed to work out. i just don;t know how to get there, you know?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2009): wow, i'm really glad it worked out!!
let us know what happens when you meet up with him!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionGuys....I got his number!!!!! Thank you so much for your advice.You guys gave me a push to do it and it worked out in the end. After almost 4 years of thinking about the one that I Wanted every day, Im finally getting the chance to try it out. I hope this inspires you guys to never give up on someone that you deep down believe could be the one for you and dont be afraid to go after what you want... You never know what could happen :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOk here is what I wrote: "Hey. I didn’t want to ask in an email but I won’t get a chance to ask you in person. But I wanted to ask if your not busy maybe you wanted to casually hang out for like an hour or something since we're going to be close to each other when we both are away to catch up. I’m going to be in Atlantic City for one night on the boardwalk I’m not sure when, with my parents but they are going gambling and I can’t go in the casino with them so if you wanted to maybe we could do something because I don’t know that area very well."
He responded to me this morning asking me to let him know when Im going. So thats not a no! :) I wrote back saying Im not sure and wont know until Im there and I asked if he would be comfortable exchanging numbers and i assured him it would be safe with me. Now Im waiting for his response.
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reader, kitty_3 +, writes (14 July 2009):
oooh yay!!! i hope he says yes!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2009): Thanks for the update!
Let us know if he writes back.
by the way, what did you say to him in the email, if you don't mind sharing?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHey guys! Just giving a heads up that i emailed him today and I made it sound very casual and i asked him if he wanted to meet up so now its up to him. Hopefully Ill get an answer tomorrow well technically today.
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reader, kitty_3 +, writes (12 July 2009):
well... to me it seems like he's definitely interested in you too.I like your idea of asking what kind of things there are to do, etc. ask that first, see if he asks you to hang, and if he doesn't, reply back that you too should do whatever fun thing he recommends together.good luck! i'm rooting for you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHey guys, thank you so much for taking the time to read my question. I appreciate your feedbacks and I have decided to ask him. Im planning on doing it sometime next week. I will post how it goes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2009): im with everyone here, go for it, i think rejection is easier to deal with than curiosity. curiousity will drive you mad, the worst he could say is im flattered but im sorry i cant, and then you will be able to find a way of getting over him.
HOWEVER the best part is, if he says yes and gives it a chance you could fall inlove and this could be your soul mate.
So no regrets, just do it, trust...after its over and done with you'd probably be saying aww, wasnt as bad as i thought it'd be!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2009): I think you should talk to him.
You are over 18 and you have left the school he teaches at so there are no legal issues.
"no i cant do that what am i supposed to say o this is britney i met her at school?"-that shows that he at least considered it.
Think about it this way, if you don't tell him, your going to live your life wondering what couldv'e happened.
Let us know what happens if you do decide to tell him.
good luck!
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reader, conswalo wasabi  +, writes (10 July 2009):
I have been where you are now and i left it. If i could go back and make the decission again i would and i would take my changes with rejection.
Go and see him tell the truth dont pussy foot around just be honest with him. IT CAN WORK
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2009): i say go for it. You are both adults. let him know you are interested and then if he feels the same then he will resopond. It doesnt matter how you met and 8 years age difference is nothing!
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