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writes:I am 13 and like boys.But last weekend I stayed at my BFF house like we do sometimes.That night we started talking about boys and sex and stuff.We were talking about what it is like with our boyfriends and started messing around.So we ended up kissing. I was really into it while we were doing it but the next morning I was depressed.She didn't think it was a big deal but I made her promise not to tell anyone.Im not interested in girls besides being friends just boys really. So I don't know why I did this unless im gay or something and don't know it yet.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2010): Hey, I am a Lesbian, and I think you are bisexual. Or Bicurious. So, do you still like girls? I think you are just bi-curious.
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reader, Twinkey  +, writes (17 January 2010):
 You could be bisexual but it could of just been a experiment but I know what your going through I'm lesbian and I did the same thing so think about it for a while and do you like her now
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reader, rebecca197819  +, writes (9 November 2009):
 Hello,
Every teenage girl goes through what you’re going through its called part of growing up, I myself wondered once upon a time if I was gay due to the same thing happening with my best friend, at the time i was into it but the morning I too was depressed don’t be too hard on yourself, it’s a natural feeling at your age being attracted or wondering what it’s like with a girl, the point is you kissed a girl and now you know your more for boys everyone makes mistake's but learn from it. Every relationship needs to be worked at regardless if you straight or gay or even bisexual. Don’t worry about it.
Hope this helps
Rebecca x
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2009): I think you are to young to know yet. I would say you are not gay since this was an unexpected encounter. Many young women are curious about their sexuality and will have an experience like this one.
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reader, pancakes rule  +, writes (8 November 2009):
 I agree with sweety pie, I have never had an experience like that, but i know people who have gone out with someone of their sex for a while and after a bit of experimenting decided that they were straight.
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reader, Sweety Pie +, writes (8 November 2009):
 Um.. what exactly did you do?I think the same thing still applies. Im sure your BFF doesnt want it mentioned either, so if both of you stay quiet im sure it will be fine :)xx
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reader, confused4321 +, writes (8 November 2009):
confused4321 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks everyone
I just wanted to say we did more then kissing
So im more worried about the other things we did
After it happened my bff said it was just messin around and not a big deal
but i don't want anyone at school or my parents to know
I don't want them to think im some sort of sex crazy or something like that
I worried because bff said since i had the big O i might be gay or bi or something
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2009): Sounds like you answered your own question. You could be bi-curious but even thats a strech. Though I have never experimented with friends, I knew people in high school and even college who did.
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reader, old-spinstah +, writes (8 November 2009):
Having a same sex experience and enjoying it does not make you gay. It's confusing as hell when you're only 13 but it doesn't mean that you're gay.
If you identify yourself as straight, continue to do so. Lots of people straight have enjoyed same sex experiences and still consider themselves straight.
Try not to worry sweetie
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2009): You are at age where sexual experimentation is normal.
If you didn't enjoy it after the fact, then I wouldn't worry about it.
It is pretty normal for young people to explore their sexuality.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2009): Your not gay, im afraid. just curous.
Alot of girls do what you have. Infact 2 out of 3 women have admitted to having a lesbien experence.
So dont worry bout it.
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reader, Sweety Pie +, writes (8 November 2009):
Your a bit young to know if your gay or not :)
Does it really matter either way?
I think you were just experimenting with your friend, your a teenagers and your hormones are all over the place, so you wont have a clue what your really want untill your a bit older.
But I wouldnt say you were gay, seeing as you like boys!
Just wait a little bit, untill everything is settled down and then you will know :)
Dont worry about it!
xx
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