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writes:So my bf was supposed to come over yesterday night, because he needed me to wake him up at 5 in the morning because he has work at 6, he never came over and i called him like at 10 the next morning, asking him why he did not come over again, he said he went out and that he is so angry that he got to work late ( an hour late mind you). The thing is after we finished talking he said that he will call me later he never did so i called him and he never picked up i left him a text that we needed to talk ( i was going to end it because i have no time for that) he never responded so i just ended it through text. Do you think he is blaming me for him getting to work late what do you think is going on with him, one day everythin is ok and the next he completely ignores me!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questiondo you guys think he is seeing someone else? thank you!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionKatyayni,, i do not know why he is blaming me i do not know if he really is but i think that he might be seeing someone else, he is very sneaky like that, and i quite agree with the others it was his responsibility to get up, how did he use to get up before when we were seperated! tired of al of his crap!!!!! and i know i ended it to fast with out talkin to him but i am just over it!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionno old-spinstah, he has not directly blamed me, but i think he is doing it indirectly, by ignoring me and not answering my text or phone calls! One thing to note though when we got back together his sleeping habits has changed alot he now snores like hell and he sleep talks and most of them involve work!
thenotsogreat,it is final i mean it this time i have taken back that guy like five times i know but i still love him, but i will not anymore time to do me and take care of myself!!!
Thank you guys for your time!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThe thing is we always break up ( well i always dump him) he always does things like that and he comes back weeks after calling for a chance again but this time i cannot take it anymore i am just tired with him, what i am thinking is that he is spending time with someone else i know it is not good to come with that quick conclusin but that is what i think!!
And with him being late for work, when i called him,, he did say that he was really angry, and i did ask him if he knew he wanted me to wake him why did he not come over he said that he was really tired and fell asleep, that he did not even want to sleep at his place, and you guys are right it was his responsibility eversince we got back together that is the only thing he wants me to do wake him up because he knows that i do not sleep alot.
i am not going to talk to him again if he had respect for me he would have called me by now so that we can talk about it, i am over this!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2009): Very strange indeed. You have dumped him though?
Is it final or will you sit down with him and talk it out?
I hope you do. He could be putting his stupidity on you. alot of people do just that.
If that is the case then you have already solved your problem, just forget the looser.
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reader, old-spinstah  +, writes (8 November 2009):
Let me just get some facts straight in my head....
1) He was supposed to come over last night but didn't because he went out instead.
2) He is an hour late for work the next day
3) You call him at 10 and he says he'll call back later.
4) He doesn't call back and he doesn't respond to a phone message or text either
5) You dump him later that day by text.
Has he directly blamed you for not getting him up on time? If he has, then he's just being silly - how could you possibly have got him up on time if he wasn't there? But it doesn't sound like he has directly blamed you for this....
However, being late for work (even if it is only an hour) can really screw up your whole day. I don't know what he does at work but he may well have been really busy after that and not in much of a position to answer your texts or calls straightaway. Plus, being late can put you in a bad mood for the day and he may not want to have a serious conversation when he's feeling angry with himself.
If he'd ignored your texts and messages for more than a couple of days, you might have a point but you dumped him within 24 hours. (or is this a recurring problem?)
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reader, cloud_taster +, writes (8 November 2009):
It sounds to me like he has other things on his mind, and is using you as a scapegoat. I doubt he's angry because you made him late for work- after all, it's his responsibility to get himself to work, not yours. My guess is there's something else going on with him. Maybe give it a few days and then try ringing him again, and make him be honest with you.
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