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*ini mouse
writes:Hi im 13 and i want sex really badly i dream about it but i wish it was reality. Its always with this boy that i really like. Well i say like, but what i mean is love. I have tried telling him but he blanks me. i had a passionate kiss with him in march and we touched each other. It was hard for me though because he had a girlfriend and i felt really bad so i pushed him back with his girlfriend. I really miss him, it feels like he's punishing me for pushing him back. plz help somone!!! Reply to this Question
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reader, babyyybre  +, writes (2 September 2008):
you are wayyy too young honey. put it this way be strong and hold off until a little later youll be happy you did you dont need any problems right now considering with sex brings diseases, babys, and other cruel things. sex is nice but trust me you have your whole life and when you get into your late teens the guys will flock to you knowing your a virgin
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reader, saltwater +, writes (1 September 2008):
 no problem :-)
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reader, ItsEmma +, writes (1 September 2008):
 It is understandable to be deaming about sex. It's almost impossible not to with the media today. I did, and I bet almost everyone on this site did when they were a teenager. However, just because you have these thoughts does not, by any means, mean you should act on them. Especially with a guy that tried to cheat on his girlfriend. I'm going to mirror the person below me and ask, do you REALLY want to be with a guy that cheats on his girlfriend? Have fun and live life. You don't need sex to be happy.
~Emma
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reader, mini mouse +, writes (1 September 2008):
mini mouse is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks salt water!!! you helped quite alot
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reader, Emajayne  +, writes (1 September 2008):
 You dont mean love, what u really mean is lust, and its teenage lust, not the real thing. You are just barely a teenager and have way too many things to focus on other than sex and the possibility of getting pregnant and/or std's that will be with u for the rest of ur life. did u also know that having sex this young increases ur chances of cervical cancer by A LOT and that sweety, doesn't have a cure? You are just pumping with hormones right now and u will learn to control them as u progress through your high school years hopefully. It is completely natural to want sex...it is this mysterious power that is supposed to feel good that has been strictly forbidden so in a way for us teens it is a way to rebel against our parents and teachers for telling us no, when really our parents and teachers are right, so listen to them. U wouldn't be normal if u didnt want ur dreams to be reality. there is NOTHING wrong with dreaming about having sex or dirty things with a person that u are really fond of. The fact that he has a girlfriend right now makes me think "hmm...hes cheating and if hes doing it to her, he would do it to u". Just tell him to leave u alone. u are above this nonsence and he needs to grow up A LOT before u even give him a second thought.
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reader, saltwater +, writes (1 September 2008):
I think you're asking this question because you know that sex at 13 is not really a good idea...in fact it's a terrible idea.
You're young and full of hormones so I understand your urge...but relax, sex is a terrible and shockingly bad experience when you are young and underage.
He kissed and touched you when he already had a girlfriend? Not the ideal man you want to out with is it?
Relax. Don't worry about relationships and sex at your age. You should be having fun with friends, not trying to get sex with someone who clearly has no respect fr you.
Go out and have fun with your friends. Forget about this idiot!
Take care
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reader, Aunty Em +, writes (1 September 2008):
 You sent him packing because he has a girlfriend - quite rightly too. If you're going to be intimate with anyone, don't be with someone who already in a relationship.
You're at an age where your hormones are absolutely raging! Try taking on the challenge of controlling THIS and transfer it in to something that isn't so HUGE of a decision.
Remember, sex in the UK is illegal under the age of 16. Talk to your mum, i'm sure she'll help you with how you can deal with your feelings.
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reader, supermum +, writes (1 September 2008):
 YOU ARE 13 YEARS OLD!!!!!
We have the 16 years old law for a reason... you want to try and wait as long as you can, and make it really special.
i know the hormones going through your body must make it really hard for you, but you must understand that 1 it is illegal, and 2 it is illegal for a reason..
you are not old enough to be in a long enough standin relationship to have sex...
i dont mean to have a go, but i lost my virginity when i was nine by my fathers friend, and i so regret everything...
i cant understand why you would want to loose something so special at such a young age...when you cant fully understand what it means..
try and hold on another few years. Talk to your parents or another adult if you can.
Good Luck
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