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writes:I know this sounds stupid, selfish and I shouldn’t feel like this. But today I’ve lashed out on my fiancé for no reason to be honest.Today he has been at his brothers wedding all day, which I was invited to but last minute a couple of weeks ago his family decided that they didn’t want me to go to the wedding because there wasn’t enough room there for me. I was so upset, I’d been invited nearly 8 months ago, I’d brought a new dress, me and my fiancé were really looking forward to it together so we could think about our future wedding etc…Anyway, I thought I was over it, until just an hour ago when my fiancé rang me from a pay phone in the castle where there getting married (he didn’t use his mobile as there is not much signal there) and well he was saying how much of an amazing time he was having there, that he missed me and he loved me and that he was sorry he hadn’t spoke to me all day because he’d been really busy (he’s an usher). And all of a sudden out of nowhere I shouted and screamed at him calling him selfish, I said without meaning it that I didn’t love him anymore, and that I didn’t want to see him tomorrow (he’s coming to see me for 2 weeks for Christmas as were In a long distance relationship). He put the phone down on me, and I busted out crying, I didn’t mean a word I’d said to him, its just I was really low that I had been uninvited and I thought It was unfair because with me and my fiancé getting married soon, I was going to be part of their family. I cant ring him back as it was on a payphone, I cant get in touch with him on his mobile as he has no signal, if I text him he wont get it till tomorrow.I just don’t know what to do, I desperately want to see him tomorrow I’ve been excited about him coming for months.I guess tonight I was just really jealous that he was out having a good time partying etc, and I was just stuck at home alone all day. What should I do?I don’t want to have lost our relationship just over this little outburst?I’m so disappointed and angry with myself because of this.
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (20 December 2009):
 Tell him the truth. And if he really loves you, he'll forgive you. Tell him that you lashed out out of jealousy and sadness, that you regret what you said and that you are really, truly sorry. I'm sure if you tell him what you've written here, he'll forgive you.
Good luck, sweetness!!
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reader, scotfish +, writes (20 December 2009):
 if he is your fiance im sure he loves you very much so i am sure that this is not going to ruin your relationship. You were really looking forward to the day and it gets changed on you almost last minute, so feeling upset is perfectly normall and you shouldn't feel bad about that. You lashed out because you were upset that you wern't there and made a mistake everybody has done something like that and said something stupid in the heat of the moment you should phone him or txt him anything and tell him how you feel and how bad you feel about what you said and im sure that everthing will work out and this will be forgotten about quickly
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reader, con nut +, writes (20 December 2009):
Just tell the truth about the matter. If he love you it's water under the bridge. Take care
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