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writes:You know they say 'if you love someone set them free, if they come back they're yours, if they dont, they never were' or something to a similar effect... what if you let someone go and they come back, and then they leave again? :-( X x Reply to this Question
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (13 January 2010):
 If they leave again, then they initially wanted back but they don't anymore. Move on.
q1605, I read somewhere that a pile of stones can be a very good way to hide this kind of excavations :-).
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reader, LoviesBrknHeart  +, writes (13 January 2010):
I set someone free ..unfortunately he didn't come back to me... but u just gotta imagine what life would be like if u keep taking him back after every time he goes.. or worse what he'll bring back everytime he comes back... Guys always hve that mentalty that there might b something better out there when they got a good thing n seem to think that when things go a little sour that its not meant 2 be... move on girl.. we got options too!
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (12 January 2010):
Set him free permanently.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 January 2010): Hey,
My .."ex" i guess, 2 year long distance, inter-culture, boyfriend broke up with me 3 months ago and for a month i tried to reconcile with him, then another month i completely ignored him, his emails and IM messages ( the only way we can communicate b/c of the international distance). He came back to me clearly confused but wanting to remain friends..grr..we clearly still love each other and HE ! only broke up with me b/c this relationship is very difficult, we want different lives ( i was sacrificing mine to be with him ..i'm a city girl, he's a farm boy lol ), as selfish as he is I still want to be with him some day.. so my advice is if deep down you know "he's the one" then find the strength to wait for him to wake the hell up like i'm trying to..ask yourself why do I miss him? why is he so much better than any other guy? If it doesn't work out with him, I've always been told it takes half the time of the relationship to fully cover..in my situation 1 year..which honestly if i'm not with him I will take a year of being single b/c the thought of being with anyone else right now sickens me..i'm very old fashion ;) (he was my first BF too which makes it harder!) I also believe that love finds you (i wanted nothing to do with my bf!)..you can't go searching for it, you can't buy a husband at a grocery store lol, and you can't be TOO picky! ..if he is a great guy but likes the red sox while you like the yankees..i am sure you can get over that....i'm not giving up on my relationship that easy..but am "going with the flow"...good luck and feel free to e-mail me. :)
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reader, Brooklyngirl  +, writes (12 January 2010):
 Set him free again....and next time he comes back tell him to get lost!
As long as he knows you're standing by, waiting...he will come and go as he pleases. He doesn't have to stick around, because he knows, you will take him back when ever he feels like stopping by!
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (12 January 2010):
Then you got unlucky.
But at least now you know and can cut him out of your life and move on.
Good Luck!! xx
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