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writes:Im a 46 years old woman just divorced my husband. I have got my own house and a part time job but earning just enough to support myself. I've met this man 16 years my senior and we gets on well and we've been together for 3 years. He has a good job and good income. He said I have no contribution to this new relationship and I'm not sharing his wealth. He only shares the food bill. Is he right or wrong to think that? Please advise.
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reader, Red591  +, writes (24 September 2011):
 Um how can you think that this is acceptable. I would tell him that you can't afford his company and he can live in his own house. He sounds like a selfish prick. Tell him to F off. Men who don't pay their share are bums. You deserve better than a bum. I get helping peole in a bind but this is flat out refusal to help. He is a loser
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reader, Claraw1  +, writes (24 September 2011):
 He should pay half of all living expenses, including the utilities and whatever payments required for living on the premises. I suggest that you have a talk with him and make it clear that he has to pay half of all bills, otherwise you will be the one who is left broke. If he can't or won't agree to that then seriously think ablout whether he is worth your precious time and love. Don't let yourself be used by him in this way, your too precious a person for that. Good luck
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (23 September 2011):
 Are the two of you living (together) in YOUR house????If "yes," then check the local newspaper and learn what is the value of renting an equal-sized home or apartment, and tell him that he "owes" you at least 1/2 of that, each month..... IN ADDITION TO 1/2 OF THE GROCERY BILL!!!!!But maybe, before you do that, you should sit down with a big glass of red wine, and contemplate if trying to make a life with this piker is even worth it!!!!Good luck....
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reader, RedAthena +, writes (23 September 2011):
 Your post is confusing.
You have been together 3 years, but he sees the two of you in a new relationship?
He says you have no contribution to the relationship and you are not sharing his wealth? What does that mean?
If you are currently living together-ALL exspenses should be equal between the two of you. If you can ONLY support yourself, then deal with the facts and wave bye to this man.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (23 September 2011):
 I'm a bit confused by this post. Are you two talking of living together???
If you are, then he should contribute to HALF of the living expenses. As should you. Even if you are working part time you could still afford that, in fact it would help you out financially. Him just footing the food bill would be completely unfair. If he can't pay half, then you two don't need to be living together.
Now I don't understand why he states you don't contribute anything to this relationship??? You contribute love and companionship. So what if you don't make as much money as he does! You're an independent woman, you're not asking him for money or sharing a bank account. Right?
I'm guessing this man is a complete tightwad who loves his money and is afraid that a woman is going to come along and take it all away from him.
The only way you would be entitled to his wealth is thru marriage. But if he can't even cough up his fair share of living expenses, I don't see how he'll ever get married.
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