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writes: I sort of reject people when i realize that they don't like me. To the extent that i don't accept their existence on this planet. I don't want to keep doing this, but it happens unconsciously. And when some likes me, i become sort of a pet to them. Please help. Reply to this Question
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reader, mum2be  +, writes (14 March 2007):
I think you are just afraid of being hurt, and the people you think may hurt you you cut out from your life. There is not always something wrong with doing this, however you must make sure you give people a chance to get to know you and make their own minds up before you shun them completely. When you know for sure, then you can shun them, and you odnt have to feel bad about it.
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reader, I Dont Lie +, writes (14 March 2007):
 Everyone likes to be liked and be accepted by society. Everyone feels resentment when they feel rejected by society. Its just how we're programmed to feel and think. However, in your situation, you've probably let yourself slip a little too far in wanting to be accepted and liked. And in the event that you arent, you retaliate by completely shutting them out, which is not exactly a bad thing, but is a form of denial which is unhealthy in the long run. Realise that in this world, noones perfectand that there are bound to be people who get along with you and others who dont. As much as people might say, "screw what others think", they never completely feel that way, as I've clearly put it, we're only humans and feel what we feel. There wont be anything I can say to make you change who and how you are right now, it has to come from within yourself. You have to learn through your own experiences that sometimes, people you so let yourself be pets to, arent exactly going to be there for you when you need them, and those that you reject, just might one day become your true friends!!
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