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writes:Hey Cupids, got my self in a little bit of trouble and need some Help and advice.I had a one night stand January 26th early morning January 27th. The guy i had the one night stand was without a condom. We were both having a few social drinks and things got carried away and now im stuck up all night with thoughts going through my mind. I may be pregnant, and im not 100% sure, I go the 14th of February for blood work, but for the last two days, i couldnt wear a bra because my boobs hurt so much. My lower stomach is harder than it ever was before, i pee way more frequently than i did before in my entire life. Im moody as hell, i can be happy at one minute and crying the next, my nerves are shot i cant handle much anymore. I have a boyfriend who came home January 27th Night. Does it seem like im pregnant to anyone? or am i losing my mind ?If i am pregnant how am i supose to tell my boyfriend and that its not his. How am i even supose to tell the guy i slept with? Im so confused, and i really need advice !Thanks !
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (4 February 2013):
 You are not far along enough to have symptoms yet. You are building this all up in your head because of your guilt due to your cheating.
When was your period due? IF your period is due around February 10th, then you might have been ovulating around the time you had unprotected sex. BUT you would not even have had the fertilized EGG implant yet so having hormonal symptoms already is not really possible. See what happens is this:
You get your period, that counts as day one of your cycle
About two weeks later you ovulate (about day 14 of your cycle) you have a window of about 3 days before ovulation and 3 days after ovulation to get pregnant. This means (assuming you are sexually active with your boyfriend) that either man may be the father if you even are pregnant (which I am doubting)
Once the egg is fertilized in the fallopian tubes it has the journey down the tube to the uterus where it will implant and if that implant takes, you will start to nourish the baby with the blood that you would normally shed around day 28.
Does this explanation fit your time frames?
Best thing to do…get SEVERAL good Home pregnancy tests. (don’t bother with dollar store tests) Pee on a stick…(POAS) get a negative test. Wait a few days, POAS again.
I doubt you are pregnant… once you are past this scare come back and let’s talk about the fact that you cheated, you had unprotected sex and you are not really sure about reproduction.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (4 February 2013):
 It sounds like either period or anxiety to me. You could be pregnant, but if you were there's no way you'd have symptoms yet. Wait until the blood test is done before deciding what to do. But you should probably consider ending the relationship given the indiscretion.
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reader, misLadYd..  +, writes (4 February 2013):
 buy a home preg test and be sure.. Before you start guessing
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reader, Silius Sodimus  +, writes (4 February 2013):
I'm not a female but based on the ones I have been with it seems like you just might be getting your period. Every girl Iv'e been with has sore boobs and moodiness just before her period. It's very difficult though not impossible to get pregnant without a condom unless he came in you of course. As for the peeing that can also occur without a condom as your vagina/urethra can become irritated and this is also based on the girlfriends Iv'e had. I know it can be stressful, I have been stressed out in similar situations even as a guy. If you haven't already, take a pregnancy test and between that time just remain calm, you could be getting worked up over nothing.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (4 February 2013):
 You can't feel pregnancy symptoms after 5 days from fecundation . Breast tenderness and soreness usually appear not before the 6 week of pregnancy,( so, 4 weeks from conceiving ), frequent urination even later. You would not have even developed enough pregnancy hormons to make a pregnancy detectable by clinical tests , imagine if they could be enough to cause mood swings ( as they do much later on ).
What you are feeling is probably due to the imminent arrival of your next cycle, or just ..nerves.
I am not saying you could not have got pregnant, just that you could not have developed pregnangy symptomps so early on, so it's pointless to work yourself up in a lather and scare yourself for, hopefully, nothing. You aren't even late with your cycle yet.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 February 2013): You should just tell him. You are sick if you dont. the best thinges u can do is just own up to what you did and hope he can forgive. You. Which he might. Im with someone who cheated on me and i forgave him because he owned up and realized he made a mistake and could prove to me he sincerely. Meant it
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reader, oldbag  +, writes (4 February 2013):
 Hi
First thing you must do is calm down. Then buy a Pregnancy Test. Do the test.Or see your GP and have one done as soon as possible,like do it today..
Don't panic until you know for sure,you can't make any choices until you know.
Have you missed your period? Sore breasts could be because your due.
IF your pregnant you then decide what you will do,who you will tell. You are learning a hard lesson so there is no point punishing yourself more.The best person to tell is your Mum IF your pregnant she may be upset but she is your best friend and will want to help.
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reader, jadedpearl +, writes (4 February 2013):
 I think you should take a deep breathe and calm yourself. It is possible for a woman to hype herself up so much into believing she might be pregnant that she starts displaying some of the symptoms of pregnancy that you mentioned in your post. The anxiety and stress of believing you are pregnant can actually make your body think you are pregnant when really you are not. It can go so far as to even having contractions that pregnant women have. Think of it as just your mind tricking you into believing you are. Take a deep breathe and relax. It will be okay. Just wait it out until you have blood work done in the next few days.
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