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writes: I'm deeply in love with one of my really good friends and I intend to tell her but I don't know if she'll be freaked out if I tell her I love her.So do you think I should tell her I love her or should I just tell her I feel really strongly? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2008): dude, I have the same problem, I have feelings for one of my friends too, but its the same, I want too but I dont want to wreck our friendship,but then i'd always think to myself 'what if' so I dont really have a answer for you, but if you took her out it could help
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reader, Shane +, writes (6 June 2005):
Oh my god, hang on a second!Don't rush anything!!! Telling her that you love her will totally freak her out, and possibly damage your friendship. I speak from experience here. Slow way down here. Logically, the basis for love comes from not only liking someone's personality, but liking them sexually too. Fair point? You have to see if she can think about you in the same way as you think about her. DO NOT come out of the blue and tell your friend that you love her. She probably has no idea.My advice to you is, simply, ask her out on a date. Make an arrangement to go to the cinema together, just the two of you , and make it clear that you intend it to be more of a romantic thing than a friendly one. Hopefully you'll hit it off and start seeing each other. If not, it's a much smaller loss than being rejected for saying that you love her. To blurt out that you love her will, guarenteed, wind up in disappointment for you and possibly an awkwardness between the two of you for a very long time. Take it much slower and be more subtle. There's no reason to put it all out there when you can get a feel for her attitude towards the two of you first.Best of luck mate!
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reader, Your big sis +, writes (5 June 2005):
 Depends...if she's in a relationship right now, do not tell her. If she's single, why not? Most women would prefer falling in love with a good friend than a stranger off the street. And be prepared if she rejects you, maybe she really finds you to be a GREAT friend and would hate to jeopardize your friendship by testing a relationship. Either way, you still win.
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reader, Devil's Advocate +, writes (5 June 2005):
 You'll kick yourself for the rest of your life if you don't tell her. You'll always wonder what might have been. So go on and let her know how you feel about her.
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