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writes:For several months now, I've been in this sort of involvement with someone. Nothing official, and I want to take things steady due to past experiences of rushing into things. I feel positive about this relationship and I am sure that he likes me. This is also my first involvement since the breakdown of a serious, long term relationship over two years ago. Because of this, I am being careful of what to say and don't want to "scare" him off e.g. I haven't said love you, even as a light hearted way due to past experiences.A couple of weeks ago, when I was talking to him it was a spur of the moment thing and I told him how I have enjoyed spending time with him, he was flattered when I told him this and he said how he enjoyed the time we've spent together and mentioned how he wanted to cuddle up and watch films again like we did when we first spent the night together a few months ago (I felt really happy, as he remembered something like this)Last time I saw him was a week ago, he invited a group of friends over to celebrate getting a new job. He got in touch on the day saying how he hopes that I can make it and was pleased to know that I was in town for this. Later on in the evening, he asked me, in private, if I wanted to stay for the night. He said how he would like it if I stayed. For the rest of the evening, we were sending eachother texts from across the room...It was an amazing night, being with him especially how it had been a while since I last saw him and he was incredibly passionate which made me feel great and its something that I haven't felt in such a long time.The day after, I sent him a message saying thank you and how it was great. To which he replied "you're welcome, it was nice". Now after what seems like a very long week, I'm starting to miss him and I keep on getting the thought of maybe telling him that I miss him... So I wanted to ask, would saying something like this scare a guy off? Or is could there be a subtle way of saying this?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 January 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you everyone!
Feel even more positive about myself and this situation :D
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reader, jimmy2  +, writes (16 January 2011):
 As a guy and if I were in this very happy situation you seem to have found, I can honestly say that this would not scare me off at all - in fact I'd be flattered and probably respond with something like I miss you too and how I can't wait to see you again!
I get myself worked up for the very same reasons - you think that if you have found someone really precious to you that expressing your love for them is somehow going to push them away but if he feels the same way about you - then believe me when I say it won't! If it does then he's not worth it.
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reader, Learner.uk +, writes (16 January 2011):
 Hi, no harm in saying you miss him it sounds like he likes you. Dont let the past hold you back i have done that and regreted not saying anything. Feel positive and go for it you only live once. Good luck all the best.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 January 2011): Never be ashamed or doubtful in sharing lovely emotions of another with the person. If it presents a problem for the person than don't waste your time with that shallow person. Direct them to someone who's deep and so will appreciate them and reciprocate. Tell him your lovely emotion.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (15 January 2011):
 Well it sounds like the both of you are getting on great and he has showed that he wants to spend time with you therefore i dont see it as a bad idea in saying i miss you. Its a nice thing for somebody to hear and therefore i think you should just forget about past relationships focus on this guy and yes tell him how you feel.
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