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writes:So me an my bf are going on 4months. And for either of us this is a big deal. But I have been talking to this other guy corey and I am starting to get feelings for him. We talk more than my boyfriend and now I think that me and my bf are just too comfortable in our relationship. He never tells me I'm pretty any more or how how happy he is with me (explanation for the need of attention is that my dad is an alcoholic and choose alcohol over our family and moved out when I was 8 so attention from males is what I seek not sexually but emotionally) well me and my bf already have stuff against us bc he is about 8 years older than i am an doesn't believe in god like my family and smokes. Corey is a lot more similar to me and we have been talking about having sex and I really want to with him. But he doesn't want a relationship and I don't want to sleep with someone and not be in a relationship with them. I don't know what to do.
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reader, Jujubie +, writes (5 January 2010):
Jujubie is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYeah. I see the points you are making. I am thinking that I am going to just try and see if there is something to salvage out of our relationship. And like I said this is my first really big relationship and his since like 5 yes ago. And he isn't dirty by any means. He's very well kept and is more like a closet smoker. If you met him you wouldn't know.
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reader, MDD  +, writes (5 January 2010):
the sitution is complicated here the fist thing is his mom is in love with his best friend now if she wont go with tht guy but the relationship between his mom n the family members will definatly wont get settlle even after she wont go coz in there view she lost the position of thier mom wht she had before so i suggest she go with them
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reader, Jujubie +, writes (5 January 2010):
Jujubie is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI mean I really do like my bf but I don't like how plane jane the relationship has gotten. I like spontanaity which is one of the thing we had a lot of before and now I'm just kinda bored with the way things are going. What could I do to maybe spice things up??and also should I tell him about my thoughts about corey? I think it would break his heart bc he is a sweet guy just has a dead personality sometimes.
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reader, InvisibleMe  +, writes (5 January 2010):
 Sounds like coreys using you a bit.. he doesnt want a relationship but wants sex? just explain to him you dont want to be friends with benefits you want to be in a relationship and dont think that giving him what he wants will persuade him to be in a relationship with you cause it will only teach him that he can control you in that way. if you dont want to go out with the other guy simply end it but dont do something you regret. talking about having sex with someone else isnt really the right thing to be doing either think about how you would feel if it was him doing that behind your back.. good luck xx
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (5 January 2010):
To be honest, neither guy sounds right for you. Your boyfriend is slowly starting to neglect you, and you don't seem to have all that much on common. And this new guy Corey doesn't want a relationship at all, so he's not what you're looking for either. Move on from both guys. Don't cheat though, because you could end up regretting it, or your boyfriend might find out and then you'll have a bit of a reputation. Leave both guys along and focus on yourself. You will find your Mr Right.
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