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writes:Me and my boyfriend been together for 5 months,well My boyfriend said he wanted a break;; but he still wants to see me,he said "he is just stress" but not from me... i dnt understand why we are taking a break,if he still wants me to come over everyday..Im so confused.... what does a Break really Mean??
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reader, Share Bear  +, writes (5 January 2010):
 A 'break' can mean different things to different people, and I think it's important to talk to him about exactly what he expects of you during this, and of course agreeing the same in return.Are you both free to date other people? Is there an agreement that you will tell the other if you do so? Establishing the ground rules beforehand will be a lot easier than trying to justify any misunderstanding after the event. This may all depend on the reason for, and likely time span for the break. He may be only thinking about a few weeks, and may be hurt if you saw other people whilst he was clutching some time for himself. Alternatively, he may be thinking indefinitely, and waiting around for him could make it very difficult for you to move on.If you value the relationship, don't leave any such major hurdles down to assumptions or other people's interpretations of variable term which is used for a great variety of circumstances. Talk to him and make sure you understand what each other expects. And don't let him string you along.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2010): Being a male, this is my opinion with him taking a "break". I'm just going to be blunt. If you two are sleeping together after the "break" then he is just using you for that while being able to see other girls as he sees fit. If you you aren't having relations but are still hanging out, then it seems like he really does need some time to figure some stuff out, whatever that stuff may be.
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reader, traycee! +, writes (5 January 2010):
you both need to have clear boundaries as to what a break means. I always smel a rat when a break is required. Not in all cases but I have experienced this when the other person wants some free scope and doesn't have the heart or maybe the guts to say so. Be clear what a break means to them and make sure it's not just a reason to let you down lightly. Also a break allows someone to go off for a while and do their own thing knowing someone is still their in the wings waiting if things don't go so good. Make sure the break is not their way of saying "I want to sleep with other people, but don't want a guilty conscience."as you an't really say anything if you were on a break. At five monthsthings should just be getting hotted up. A break request this early would worry me. good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2010): A break can mean many differnt things. To find what a break means to your bf, you have to ask him. And you really should ask him again why he wants one. If you think his reason isnt very good or understandable one then tell him so.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (5 January 2010):
Break - time off to do your own thing then come back later.
Sometimes, they can be useful, especially if there are a lot of problems in a relationship. At your age, and since the relationship is only 5 months long, I'd say you'd be better ending it. Please don't be strung along when there might be someone else out there.
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