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writes:Hi all,My question here is...if a girl tells you that she will always regard you as a good friend, does it mean that it is doomsday for the guy? Totally no hope of becoming something more?So what are the steps a guy should take to avoid the 'good friend' zone?All answers are welcomed.Devil Crazy Reply to this Question
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reader, Devil Crazy +, writes (30 August 2008):
Devil Crazy is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks all for your replies. I consider her as a very good catch as the majority of the girls I see in my country (Singapore) are not what I want.According to my observations, she is the type whom I can proudly show to my parents and be with.She does know that I like her and currently, she is trying to withdraw her affection she has on the other guy who doesn't like her the same way she does for him.We are still friends, and can get along great. I hope not to miss out on her because I will start working next year. And I guess it's needless for me to say how hard it is to find a partner after working life has started.I will back off for the moment and see how thing goes. But I am definitely not going to give up on her.
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reader, SirenaBlusera  +, writes (30 August 2008):
 The thing that I want most in a boyfriend is a boyfriend who is, above all, my best friend. (It also helps if he's a romantic latino, but I'm biased so I won't get into what I like) In order to truly be a lover, you have to be a friend first.
Unfortunately you can't make someone love you (we all know that song "I Can't Make You Love Me") To answer your question, though, life is uncertain, and you can never say "never." It would be a mistake, though, to try to force it, if you have your heart set on this woman, then wait for her.
Don't forget that friendship is really special, too. We're lucky to have a few genuine friends in our lifetime.
I have been in a similar situation, and it sucks! My best friend is a guy, and I was in love with him... but he has a girlfriend and lives far away. He says that he just loves me as a best friend... There was a time when, if I had a magic potion, I would have used it on him. But, I have realized that my life was passing me by, and I've had to get on with my life. I'm not saying that you should give up hope... but, you can't put your life on hold while you wait for it to happen. Be grateful for the friendship, date, but if your heart is still set on her, wait for her. Just be prepared and ready if she should ever come to you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2008): Look up "ladder theory" online.Every teenage boy should have to read this as part of their public school education.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 August 2008): My man!
If you want the best advice then go to youtube and try the following search terms:
- arkady39
- david wygant
- mystery pick up artist
- serb aetheist (why nice guys fail with women)
- scott patterson 50 free tips for attracting women
Try teasing and challenging her. Try keeping your distance and pursuing other activities without her involvement. Make yourself scarce, increase your value, engage her curiosity. Don't let her use you as an 'agony uncle'.
Good luck!
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reader, auddi  +, writes (29 August 2008):
Hi,
No it is not doomsday for a guy. But yes, it depends on the lady totally - what she wants. If you really want to go beyond a 'good friend' zone, you could try winning her over in your own graceful way.
But if you get a hint that she doesn't like it at all, it's better if you leave it for a while. A "forced" relationship never ends up for too long anyway. Normally, she would notice the change and wonder what is wrong. If you get the right vibes (u will know it) you can try again or else, it is better to leave it at that!
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reader, superrrshawna  +, writes (29 August 2008):
 so you know how for multiple choice questions on tests like the SATs they say to never choose the answers with the extremes? "never", "always"... they are pretty unreliable words!
so. no it is not doomsday for the guy. there is hope.
as for how to avoid the good friend zone, i really couldn't tell you. i think it has a lot to do with pheromes to tell you the truth! or chemistry! because some of my best guy friends have had me crazy in love, and some have given me the security blanket feeling.
i guess it all depends on what the girl is looking for.
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