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anonymous
writes:Im a bit wooried about my boyfreind he seems to be very getting very freindly with his ex they have a daughter together but she has stopped him seeing her before and has not been nice to him at all since they split up surely he should hate her? but she has tried to split us up a few times and one time he let her but we got back together we were getting on really well and then i noticed text messages he had been sending to her and deleting i didnt get to read the messages so i shouldnt really jump to conclusions. He is 30 and i am only 17 am i being to jealouse or is there still feelings for his ex as they were together 9 years.
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reader, PsyCookie  +, writes (29 August 2008):
 I think a lot of you are forgetting one important thing she said.
You mentioned that the two of them have a child together, and that few months ago she didn't allow him to visit his daughter. Obviously, that was because they were fighting and probably hated each other.
You don't know at what lenghts a parent would take to see his children. He has just probably seen that it's better to be in friedly terms with his ex, for the sake of his child. It's easier to attract bees with honey, and that's just what he's doing. He's being friendly to her, probably just swallowing all the spiteful things she might fling to him, so she will let him see his daughter.
The only problem is that he didn't tell you, probably not on porpuse. It's his problem to deal anyways, and he probably thought it was unnecesary for you to get involved. So what you should do is talk to him about this and ask him what are his reasons for contacting his ex again. Don't try t sound accusatory, or he will probably get deffensive. I'm almost 100% sure the reason is his daughter.
Good luck.
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reader, superrrshawna +, writes (29 August 2008):
 you're a 17 year old dating a 30 year old with a daughter? how far do you want the relationship to go? can you see yourself becoming the mother of his child at such a young age? can you bring him to prom? do your friends and his friends get along? does your family approve? will he let you go to college and have your own career? how do you feel about the fact that he already started a family with another woman who is not treating you well?
just some questions for you to think about. i'm not judging, but i definitely agree with anon.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 August 2008): please leave this guy alone, and find someone that is right for you..and doesn'nt have a lot of emotional baggage. I've been in this type of situation and it usually does not turn out right. So please leave im trying to spare you of the hurt before it is to late.
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