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writes:Hello everyonei have a question mostly for the girls but i dont mind having different point of vues. if there is a girl who is used to have sex with Big guys ( if you know what i mean ) . how would she feel about sleeping with an average size guy or even smaller ?! honestly how would you feel girls !!thank you Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2011): True story,
My wife has had so many sexual partners she lost count long ago, but knows it had to be over 200. This came out of a broken family, distorted childhood, etc, etc. You know the score if you've been there or read about that sort of thing.
Some were small, some were massive, some were average...like me.
I've only had three sexual partners, only had intercourse with 2, and she was my third and last sexual partner, probably for life, although if she died tomorrow I'd try to find myself another eventually after a lengthy mourning period. But, from day one I've thought of nothing but her, what makes her feel good, and how much I love her. It took years for us to fully understand each other, of care, love, counseling, and really working at the relationship.
I'm the only one who was ever able to bring her to orgasm.
So, does size matter? Yeah, it matters, the size and quality OF THE ORGASM matter a lot.
NOT YELLING, BUT THE EMPHASIS NEEDS TO BE ON THE ENTIRE SEXUAL RELATIONSHIP...which is where the orgasms come from.
I'd say the orgasm she had this morning as big enough, she still had smile on her face two hours later as she dropped me off at work after a late lunch.
Honestly, it took years to get there with the two of us, and we both loved each other. Still, the sheer enjoyment of two people who touch each other, love each other, and love touching each other, is something to behold. Keep that in mind.
There is the other alternative; go around asking men to see their erect penis. When they show it to you, if it is larger than yours you whip out a pair of shears and cut it off at the base. Eventually, you will end up in jail with a bunch of guys, in solitary confinement...or you will have the largest dick on earth, either way it ends, you can see if the women flock to you because you have the biggest one. I don't think they will, first way you'd be in jail and unavailable except to men, second way they'd probably think you are just creepy.
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reader, missm83  +, writes (12 February 2011):
 i never compared men to one another. i have been with big, small average men and honestly not even ones have i ever said to my self 'my last guy was better cuz he was bigger"they were all different all unique. so dont worry about your girls ex-men, its you and her . and remember one thing 'bigger isn't always better. be confident with what you got :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 February 2011): It's not always the size that is the issue. A guy could be huge but be terrible in bed. Size and being good in bed aren't the same thing.
If the new guy was "average" that would be fine, as long as he wasn't tiny.
I have seen so many posts about penis size, it's ridiculous. Don't worry about it and just enjoy yourself. Life's too short.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 February 2011): I hope this helps. Size does matter to a degree. In my youth I always sought out the large members in the band. However I tend to agree with the statement that thicker is better than longer. I mean what good is it if it can't go all the way in. I had a lover long ago who in order to satisfy me would put a sock or two on his member then a condom to thicken himself and pleasure me during intercourse. Orally I never cared how big it was.
Hoped that helped.
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reader, Capri2  +, writes (12 February 2011):
You will get mixed answers from different girls. Because women differ in size too. So, what's important here is whether you are a good match to your girlfriend. That's almost everything about the size, physically speaking.
Then comes the mental thing. What do your girl thinks when she sees you naked. And what do you think in the same situation.
What bothers me about this is, in case your girlfriend was with a bigger man before, is why you know that. The better way for being the bigger your girlfriend has been with, is that you never hear a word about her past lovers from her lips.
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reader, ezz16 +, writes (12 February 2011):
not a girl but just give it time.that thing will shrink down.beleive me I watched my son being born. and after a while it felt tight again.a guys 2cents
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 February 2011): I'm average (6"), and I dated a girl who had previously dated a guy with a thumb-sized penis, and another guy with a good, solid nine incher. I knew she missed that nine incher, a lot; and would laugh about the thumb-sized dude, who was a cop with a big ego, and a very little wiener! LOL We had good sex, and had fun, but, as I said, she loved that other guy's equipment. I'm married now to another woman, and bought my wife a good dildo, not too big, but a good size one (probably like the solid nine incher). My wife howls with delight with that dildo, certainly more than with me -- we call it Mr. Happy. I don't take offense -- I wish I had the nine incher, but... that's life.
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reader, velo  +, writes (12 February 2011):
I'm not a girl, but I can relate to how you feel dude.
I'm a bit older now, but when I was younger I had the same insecurities as you due to having an "average" size penis.
For what it's worth I can tell you that us guys build this into much more of an issue than it really is. Women - for the most part - don't really care about penises.
We think they do because we like breasts and vaginas more than we should, but I can tell you beyond a shadow of a doubt that most girls don't really think about dicks a whole lot.
They may have preferences and opinions about what they do and don't like, but its much more important that they have an emotional connection to their lover than a physical member inside them. They are into kissing... touching and 'romance' much more.
Of course there are exceptions to every rule - there are women who are "cock obsessed" but they are not generally the type you want to take home to mom.
That said, this doesn't stop us guys wondering if we measure up. But understand that the standard you are measuring yourself against is your own. Not hers. She will accept you for whoever you are. (I am constantly surprised by what women will accept... even love about us men.)
My advice... if you don't have a big dick... be good at something else. Play rugby or take up boxing. Find other ways to measure dicks... other than measuring dicks (which sounds gay anyway).
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reader, fi_the_tree  +, writes (12 February 2011):
 Hmm, i'm gonna sound really awful here. Sorry to any blokes reading this. I don't know if my ex had an 'above average' sized penis, but the sex was amazing, i'm pretty sure he would sometimes end up touching my cervix whenever i was on top.
Then when we split, i was with another couple of guys, and to me, they weren't as well endowed, and the sex just wasn't the same for me. Now i don't know if that's just because i was used to my ex and his size, I don't think it was down to the other guys being bad in bed. But for me it just didn't compare.
God i sound awful, but the other poster is right, it shouldn't matter about the size (although to some it does) it's how good it feels. There isn't much point trying to have sex with someone who is huge, because it's just painful. Play around with what you have, and find what works best for you.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (12 February 2011):
 The very large guys I haven't had regular sex with.. and the only attempt I had at it with a very large guy failed as it was too big and painful, so I just stopped in the middle of it.
Anyway, all penises are different. When you say "bigger" you probably think of longer and thicker. I was with a thick and average length guy on a regular basis. The sex hurt and wasn't too good since we had to be so careful to not make it hurt. And there was no quickies or jumping right to it as everything needed preparations, lube, the right entry position etc. Next I dated a guy with a smaller penis, it felt much much better, and was some of the greatest sex ever.
Sex and pleasure from sex depends on a WHOLE lot more than the guys penis size. His penis size is actually not that important. Anyway, focusing on his penis alone, it was smaller, making it easier to jump right into action, but it was also bent in a downward angle. Meaning sex in the shower was impossible, or near impossible, but so many other positions were now possible, and the feeling of him inside me was unique.
But then, as every penis is different, they all have a unique feeling.
My next guy again was straight as a pole, and in the upper end of whats average, so he was larger than the previous one. Sex was just ok, because he wasn't that great in bed. I had to do most of the work, and since he was straight, whenever I got too wet I couldn't feel him any more.
So then I went to someone who was thinner. Not sure about the lenght difference, I stopped measuring with a ruler a long time ago. But judging with eye sight and what I remember, he's smaller in girth. Perhaps longer. Smaller head anyway. The sex is amazing. Again, it just feels very different because he feels unique to him. And my pleasure from sex comes mostly from other things than his penis size. Pleasure mostly comes from the way I am being kissed, where he touches, in what way he touches, how he moves etc.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 February 2011): this is the perfect question for me lol
I am 25 and have 2 kids, I have had 9 partners in my life time all except one who have been "larger". the sex was good but I was never able to achieve an orgasm with these larger men. I met the man I am with now a year ago and we started dating. The first time we were intimate and i saw his "johnson" I was like holy crap thats the smallest penis I have ever seen... SIZE DOES NOT MATTER!!!! The first couple times it was the same thing as the other guys, but by the 4th time I had an orgasm for the first time in my life.It isnt the size of the man it's if he knows how to use the equipment! I have never been happier! hope this has hepled :)
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reader, bigdave1991 +, writes (12 February 2011):
hey in same boat,
penis size is always a majour factor,
everyone likes to say its not how big you are its the way you use it.
as long as your above 4inch i would happily say you can please a woman... think if you can use your hands to make her feel good... why on earth would your penis not?
basicly stop worrying mate. your you and nothing can change that. and how on earth does she know your not the god of sex?
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