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*razybeast
writes:I don't want to bang on so I will keep this brief.I have no confidence what's so ever, after years of bullying cause I used to be a bit chubby, now that I've lost a lot of weight and some what attractive I can't bring myself to date and do things I enjoy like sports etc. I've had propositions from guys to go on dates and stuff but I just can't seem to bring myself to go out.I had a rough time since I came out at home from my mother and that also knocked me a bit because she is so accepting to everyone else.My friends have been great and that's when I can truly be myself. Also when I'm out and about I do seem to be confident but a smile can hide alot.So my question is how can I improve my confidence? Because I'd love to be that confident person I come across as.
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reader, crazybeast +, writes (16 April 2011):
crazybeast is verified as being by the original poster of the question To be honest the advice that I have relieved is great but I can't help but think about others before myself and other peoples opinions matter alot to me as well since image is a huge part since the bullying I had over my appearance.I think one of my problems is over thinking a situation and running my brain of all the possible "what if's" and thinking the worst is going to happen :/
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reader, aaringurl  +, writes (16 April 2011):
With the infos you've written, and presumably, I don't think you have anything more to worry outside.
You're biggest problem now is the way you think about things. I really advice you to; DON'T BE NEGATIVE!
Always think things positively. Things aren't really that bad if you think things will work out just great. Go and try going out with someone, don't plan anything, be spontaneous, be a risk taker, and see how things would go.
Stop thinking about others, and start thinking about yourself. ^.^
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reader, thomas1214  +, writes (15 April 2011):
well how about this when you do ask the person out or they ask you out think about it as a just friends thing. you 2 are just friends going out and not like a couple
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reader, Welsh Uncle Dave +, writes (15 April 2011):
Be yourself, be confident in yourself and don't care what people think about you. At the end of the day, all this doubt, it's all in the mind.Take up these offers from guys and try getting into the sports you enjoy, just go for it.You only live once remember.
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