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writes:So i have this boyfriend and hes amazing. And i absolutely love him! But theres this guy who i go to school with (I dont go to the same school as my boyfriend)(we'll call the guy from school guy Number 2), and hes one of those guys who flirts with everyone, takes whatever girl he can get and all that. But hes actually really sweet and really hot. I didnt want to like him since i knew he was a flirt and kind of a player. But when hes in a relationship, hes super commited and only focuses on that one girl, so he can pretty much be a good boyfriend. My boyfriend knows i kinda like guy Number 2 only because i liked him before my boyfriend asked me out. This sounds horrible but if guy Number 2 asked me out, i would break up with my boyfriend to go out with him, especially because i would never cheat...ever. Should i not be with my boyfriend if im feeling this way?
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reader, sandiego619 +, writes (22 November 2009):
 You dont love him at all! I agree with other posters here. Just leave him. Let him find someone who will actually love him and not leave him for another guy any time. You'll just be hurting him more if you stay with him.
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reader, Accountable  +, writes (22 November 2009):
 Would you feel happy in your relationship if you knew your boyfriend was pining after another girl? Chances are you wouldnt. Stop stringing him along; leave him so he can try to find a girl who'll actually appreciate him, and you can pursue this guy at school guilt-free.
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reader, Accountable +, writes (22 November 2009):
Would you feel happy in your relationship if you knew your boyfriend was pining after another girl? Chances are you wouldnt. Stop stringing him along; leave him so he can try to find a girl who'll actually appreciate him, and you can pursue this guy at school guilt-free.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2009): 'he would pretty much be a good boyfriend' Why would you want a 'pretty much good boyfriend' when you have an 'amazing' one. Point made case closed
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reader, lola29  +, writes (22 November 2009):
you don't love him, it's better you end this for something as silly as that. i feel sorry for your soon to be ex. I wouldnt be surprised if you end up regretting the break up for someone else who, im sorry to judge but is not serious at all.
it's your choice anyways, just don't drag him into it by staying with him, and possibly cheat on his feelings for you. Im not saying you will cheat on him, but emotionally you already are.
Really think about it. It might not be worth it anyways.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (22 November 2009):
 you need to consider how you would feel if the shoe was on the other foot.
try of a moment to imagine your letter if it had been written from the point of view of your boyfriend. How do you think you would feel knowing you are not his first choice. How do you think that would affect the way you view yourself and your self esteem?
I think you are perhaps a little too young, in years and maturity, to be having a boyfriend, perhaps you should concentrate on something other than boys for a while.
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (22 November 2009):
 Or maybe, just maybe you are a teenage girl who should learn to not take every surge of hormones so bloody serious.
There is a reason you are not allowed to vote.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (22 November 2009):
I'm afraid so. You don't actually love your boyfriend, you're with him out of convenience. Imagine for a moment if it was the other way around, and it was your boyfriend who was with you but really he fancied someone else. Would you be ahppy then? I think if you feel this way about guy 2, then you should break from guy 1 now, so he has time to move on be happy with someone else. You shouldn't ever really be with someone if you fancy someone else. But at least you've seen that. So as an act of kindness to your boyfriend, end it with him now, not later. Imagine if the other guy asked you out and you just dumped your boyfriend. He would feel awful and would feel second best.
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