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*rkland
writes:Hello everyone.I've been dating this wonderful girl for about 2 months now, but something has happened to turn my life upside down. Last weekend, I went out drinking with some friends of mine, and I wound up cheating on my girlfriend. I don't really remember much about it, except for the utterly horrible feeling knowing that I did something wrong. I know that if I had been sober, that I would not have cheated. I've decided that drinking and getting out of control is far less important than my relationship with my girlfriend... but how do I shake this feeling of guilt? No matter what I try it still haunts me. Please Help! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2007): In my opinion, cheating is pretty much unforgivable- sober or not. You obviously didn't love your girlfriend enough if you couldn't refrain from being with this other girl. If she knew what you did, she would be crushed. You will have to live with the guilt the entire time you're with her, or decide to tell her. I think you should tell her- she will be living a lie, thinking you're someone you're not (someone who would never cheat on her). If she feels very strongly about you, and believes it was a one-off mistake, perhaps she will forgive you and you can try and regain trust and move on in the relationship. It would be worse to live a lie I think, than to be honest and at least know you did the right thing, whatever the repercussions.
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reader, xxmissxx  +, writes (20 September 2007):
 The guilt is telling you that you love your girlfriend.These things happen, just forget about it, focus on your girlfriend and just learn from your mistake.I thinks thats all you can do hunny.xxbest of luckxx
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reader, hlskitten +, writes (20 September 2007):
 Hi
What a nightmare! Atleast you now know your best off not getting trollied when out with the lads!
As you have learnt from it and regret it completely, DONT tell her. (unless theres a sure fire chance someone else will) And you cant go through life keeping on punishing yourself! Atleast you have a concience and you can hold your head up high. Everyone makes mistakes, its how you deal with those that counts. Why throw this girl away because you feel guilty about something you know shouldnt of happened and wont do again?
You have to chalk this up as experience and realse it has probably made you a better boyfriend for the future and it was atleast in the very early days of seeing someone.
You have given yourself enough of an ear bashing.
Move on now.
C xxxxxx
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