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writes: Hi, im in a really weird situation right now. Im 22 and i've had 2 failed relationships, i just ended the last one about a year ago. Just about 2 weeks ago i met this guy online and we begin chatting, he's married and he's also 36 years old. He told me that right away. He's really funny and sensitive and caring.I have strong reason to believe he's being totally honest with me in everything he tells me, i have seen many photos depicting his life and etc. Well i never had any other intention than being friends and so did he, but as we chatted more and more feelings started to develop, at least on my part. He says he misses me sometimes and he has never complained about his marriage and loves his 2 kids a lot.I have no intention of having an affair here, but i just want to know if he's having feelings for me? What does he really want from me? He always tells me i make him happy and that we're alike. Its true..sometimes its like we read each others minds, and its so easy for me to open up to him(i've never been able to do this before with anyone)After talking to him i realised that he was my dream guy, and i said so jokingly that if he wasnt married he would be my idea of a dream guy and i asked him didnt they make anymore copies of you?? He replied..quite seriously that if there was a copy, he would be with me. I find myself thinking of him a lot, and i cant wait to talk to him..he seems to feel the same.Where is this heading? Does he have feelings for me? Due to his age, is this like a mid-life crisis for him, where he needs me to feel younger or something?I repeat i will never ever consider having an affair, but is this considered one already? Should i stop talking to him? Please help, im really confused!!
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reader, pica +, writes (8 December 2006):
You are 22, please switch off the computer and go out and meet some real guys! Why sit in and sweet talk an older married man all the time? He's looking to fill his time - you should be enjoying life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2006): You can see all the signs of this not working and still you want to know where it is going. I Don't understand. You have two failed relationships already at the age of 22, well think hard. Just walk away from this one, he is married with kids. I bet his wife doesn't know what he is up to. Would you like to be in her situation in the future? What goes around comes around.
Take care
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2006): You may not be having a physical relationship and probably have no intention of doing so, but you ARE having an EMOTIONAL relationship with him.
At 22 you are old enough to know better than to ask us questions such as "where is this heading" and "does he have feelings for me."
Just tell him you have thought it over and decided you cannot write to him any more as he is married then block him from your email list......yeah, yeah, we know you don't want to do this, but it would be in yours - and his -best interests to cut this off, right now.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (7 December 2006):
 You ask where this might be going, I'll tell you, no place good. Stop with this nonsense, you know better.
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reader, eddie  +, writes (7 December 2006):
You're 22 and say you've had two failed relationships. Now you're headed for a third. Stand back and be realistic. You're sticking your nose where it doesn't belong and while you claim to be above an affair, you're leaving the door open to the possibility.
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reader, AngelofLove  +, writes (7 December 2006):
 If you have waited a year before having any relationship why consider starting one now with a married man?
You knew he was married from the start, great points for that, he is honest. However you carried on intimate conversations which means that deep down you considered an affair.
If he really loves you, he will do the decent thing and choose but he cannot have both, or can he?
You decide.
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