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*ngie1984
writes:I'm 24 and I still live at home with my parents and brother. I've not had a boyfriend since I was at school and I am still a virgin. I'm very shy and don't go out much. I would like to have a boyfriend and have sex. What should I do?
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reader, Illithid  +, writes (22 September 2009):
 All I can do is sympathize with you. I'm a 25 year old male virgin who has a job, friends (mostly male, or female but married), and try to get out when I can, but have trouble meeting many new people because I'm not into the whole club-scene and haven't really connected with my church.I'd really love to get to perform third base again on a girl, but at this point I'd just like someone to hold again. So I understand.My friends are encouraging me to try again to find a small group at church, or to take up Tae Kwon Do with some friends, but otherwise I'm in the same boat you are.
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reader, Fatherly Advice +, writes (22 September 2009):
 I would suggest a group involved in service. you get more honest people there. Also it tends to bring out the best in you. Also don't be so anxious to scratch your itch. real happiness comes from deep relationships not quickie sex.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 September 2009): Agree with all the aunts. Having sex is something you should only do with a partner whom you love and trust and that takes time. You need to focus on being happy with you, maybe gain more independence and clarify what your goals in life are.
As the other aunts have said join clubs and do things that you enjoy a bf will come along .
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reader, angie1984 +, writes (22 September 2009):
angie1984 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks, I do go to the gym sometimes
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (22 September 2009):
Well since you say you don't go out much, the first thing you should do it go out more.
Make some friends, join some clubs or a gym, be friendly, get chatting.
You need a life first of all and a boyfriend will come along after that.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (22 September 2009):
First of all, having a boyfriend is more than just having sex. If a guy thinks that you just want sex, he will use you and hurt you. So the most important thing is that you find a good guy who fancies you, respects and will take good care of you, rather than a guy who will use you.
The only real way is to go out and socialize. If you are shy, find a hobby you enjoy doing that involves groups of men and women, that way you stand a better chance of meeting a guy who shares the same interests as you.
Finally, there's no rush. Find the right guy once, not the wrong guy twice! Lots of luck. xx
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reader, burberrypie +, writes (22 September 2009):
Perhaps take up a new hobby.. or hit the gym, and see what comes around
I think if your going out with the intention of having sexual intercourse, then you will fall foul of some nasty people out there.
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