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writes: I am a 19 year old female with a 21 year old boyfriend. We are in a very solid relationship and talk openly about sex. We have been talking and I brought up one of my fantasies of having a FFM threesome. I am all for it, I just feel the he isn't. I've asked him what he thought about it and he says he wants to. Since we both never have had a threesome before... we're unsure of where to go to find another female. We know some friends that might, but aren't sure what they would think of us if we did ask them???
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2008): If it truly something YOU want to do then go for it - he will LOVE it - what man wouldn't. You can find a woman in a gentlemen's club or online - just google swingers. I am very proud that you know what you want and like, most people don't experiment sexually. Hope you find your lady and enjoy....
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reader, hlskitten +, writes (22 February 2008):
Lol was gonna say Uncle Phil, i didnt say that! BUT i will do now as it happens hehe.
threesomes = 99% of the time..baaaaaaaaaaad mistake.
C xxxxxx
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reader, Somethingeasy +, writes (22 February 2008):
Yeah a threesome will most defientaly ruin a solid relationship. Better off not.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2008): mistake - meant to say Askeve
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2008): You could be about to step into an emotional minefield here. The fantasy is good in your head but the reality can be a lot different.Let's say you give it a go. There's the three of you naked in the bed and you're thinking to yourself that her boobs are just that little bit bigger/more pert and you look at her butt and wonder if he finds hers more attractive than yours. You start to imagine she's giving your man a better time than you do. For his part, he's wondering if he can actually manage to satisfy two of you. He probably can't unless he's had a little blue pill for fortification. Then he starts to get anxious about not coming up to scratch, which will affect his performance from that day on. Most men have enough of a problem satisfying one woman much less two, which might explain his apparent reluctance! The list goes on.This is likely to have an adverse affect on both of you and I can only recommend taking Hlskitten's advice and keep it as a fantasy. The main erogenous zone is the brain, and that's where this sort of thing is best kept.
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reader, AskEve +, writes (22 February 2008):
For one, if you have a solid relationship with your boyfriend and you don't think he seems keen then you should be able to talk with him more about this to make sure he really doesn't mind going ahead with it. That being said, BOTH of you need to think very carefully here. In my opinion, a fantasy is best remaining a fantasy! In your fantasy you can do whatever you like with whoever you like and there are no problems. Reality isn't like that. All sorts of problems can crop up and in this fantasy, emotional ties can set in, jealousy can crop up between you and/or your boyfriend too.If I were you I'd keep the exclusivity of your boyfriend and let your fantasy remain just that. Talk about your fantasy when you're in bed together, I'm sure it would turn you both on but I would leave it there as reality is so very different.~Eve~
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