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female
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36-40,
*hallzb
writes:I'm in a relationship for 2 months only, the beginning was amazing but last 2 weeks i feel like my boyfriend got bored from me or he found someone else .. i bought him a new phone and he began to know everything about instagram and other applications and since then he have changed i don't know what happened it's like i opened his eyes to a new world He used to send me cute messages on the blackberry messenger and now he is sending stuff like he was with someone and that person has cheated on him now!!! And when he talks to me he sound like sad and broken I don't know what to do or what to think sometimes i feel that he is cheating on me Should i talk to him or give him some time maybe he will be normal again I have been cheated on 3 times before and now I'm scared that it will happen to me again I don't know if the previous relationships are effecting on my mind or he is really cheating on me !!! Reply to this Question
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reader, Got Issues  +, writes (11 May 2013):
 I don't quite understand. He sends you messages telling you someone else has cheated on him? Someone he's with now? Maybe I misunderstood that bit.Why would you buy a phone for someone you had been together with for less than two months? If he can use instagram on his phone it's obviously not a cheap one. Wait a while with big flashy gifts. You hardly know this guy after two months. Being cheated on has (understandably) made you insecure, and maybe you think buying an expensive present that will remind your boyfriend of you every time he uses it will stop him from cheating. Well, it won't. If he's a cheat, he will cheat, regardless of how well you treat him. If so many people have cheated on you then you are picking the wrong kind of person. Once is unlucky, but three times suggests that you are going for a personality type that is likely to cheat. Think about your boyfriend and your exes. What so they have in common, personality-wise? What appealed/appeals to you about them. If you consistently choose people who cheat and treat you badly, that shows that there is an issue with you. I don't mean that there is something wrong with you but maybe you have low self-esteem and this is something you need to work on. He doesn't sound great to be honest. I think that you might be better off breaking up with him and taking back the phone.
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