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writes:I used this fake account and added my boyfriend on it. I started talking to him as her, and he started to flirt with her. He said he would kiss her and most probably have sex with her! I kept asking him about me his girlfriend and he was acting like he didn't care about me. He said that he would be truthful if i found out that he had slept or kissed this girl but otherwise he wouldn't tell me.I asked him to choose me or her. He chose her, but he hasn't even met her and she is fake!I don't know what to do. I love him so much but obviously he isn't worth it! How am I supposed to let him know that it was me and that girl is fake?
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2009): he chose someone he hasn't even met. this speaks volumes of him, he is obviously not interested in you anymore. why would you worry about him anymore. please cut your loses and mourn the end of yor relationship and then move on. he actually did you a favour. why waste any more time with him. he is a bigger jerk in any event. start your lifw with people that matter, quality guy and a sincere guy. after you end it with him , then reveal the other you. look at it this way - either way he still loses, right? so dump his sorry ass and move on. better quality out there. time will prove this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2009): I did this to my ex boyfriend but he learned it was a trick. The good thing was he was very civil and didn't flirt with the other "me". And he didn't say any comment whether he has a girlfriend or not. But he still entertained this girl, though I cannot blame him coz the photo I put there was very very pretty.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2009): Write him a letter and explain how you found out what he was really like. Do this when you have left him (officially in your own mind). You must have had some doubts about him to try and do this to see - so now you have had your instincts confirmed. He doesn't sound trustworthy so what's the point.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2009): Here is maybe a bit of a pick me up.You were still you to him under a different name and possible picture. He loved you for who you were and how you spoke to him online was probably similar to who he fell in love with. Maybe work and all other sorts of problems got in the way with you guys before and you lost a bit of your personality to him and now he sees this 'other woman' who is the person he always loved.There is only one you in the world. No other woman could imitate you like you so he wouldn't have fallen for any other woman because they weren't you. That could be a possible bright side for you. But i still think you should come clean to him and try to work it out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2009): Are you planning to do this with every boyfriend? If you are, prepare to have your heart broken many more times, but don't worry - one day you'll find a boy who knows this trick and will be wary of it. Then you can kid yourself that he's better than all the rest.
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reader, BusDriver  +, writes (1 July 2009):
 Oh What tangled webs we weave, when we practice to deceive - I hope you have learned from this Life Lesson - no game playing! especially games that stem from insecurity, jealousy and lack of trust!
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (1 July 2009):
 I'm with Satindesire.
It's like when you snoop and find dirt or when you listen in on a conversation about yourself, it might not be flattering.
He's obviously a flirt. And you are a liar.. Not sure what is worse?
I'm willing to bet money that if you tell him you know about it, he will claim that he KNEW it was you.
Learn from this. Trickery is not a good thing. Nothing good will come from it. Even if he had turned her away you still did the trickery, see my point?
Seems like you are a little insecure either about yourself or your relationship with him. This is NOT a great way to build trust - on either sides.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2009): I have done this before and it went the same way. i told the guy what i did and he was really mad at me that i went behind his back and did that to him. however it did make me see what a complete and utter cheat he was so i guess in the long run it was a good thing to do even if it pissed him off.hell it pissed me off even more that he actually decided to cheat with her! even if she was fake. i only did it because i had my suspicions and obviously you did too otherwise you wouldnt of done it.anyway if you want to tell him then tell him straight `i did it because i had a feeling i couldnt trust you and i was right` then he`ll feel bad because well you are right and he was in the wrong and then just walk away. im guessing you are going to dump him anyway if not then i suggest you should.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2009): 'How am I supposed to let him know that it was me and that girl is fake?'
Em, by letting him know that it was you and that girl is fake.
How are you supposed to walk? Talk? Breathe? Do you need an answer?
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2009): You care about him, yes, and I know you are hurt by this. I like kellys idea but I have something else to add - keep talking to him as her and print the convo and do the whole envelope idea - then while, pretending to be her you should be like - "lets meet in person!" then set up a time and a place where maybe he's hung out before. Make sure you get there AFTER him. He will be expecting to see this other girl- but surprise! Its you, and your pissed- then hand him the envelope. Dont wait around so he can "explain himself" hes not worth your time. You are young, and hurt, so you can have a little fun with this. Then later you can laugh about it and find someone who REALLY cares about you.
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reader, dan026 +, writes (1 July 2009):
 Just confront him about it and dump the jerk. Don't waste your time with him. Plus you are young anyway, slim chances of you two staying together forever anyway so just cut him out of your life and save yourself future pain.
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reader, cherry cherry boom boom +, writes (1 July 2009):
girl oh hell no if that was me I would go up to him and beat him up but your probualy not that type of girl so never mind. Heres what you should do. If he asks you out on The internet say yes and tell him to meat you some were and tell him to bring condoms don't show up just call him the next day and asked him if he had a good time on his date and brake up with him okay. This ya girl, peace.
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reader, mediocreland +, writes (1 July 2009):
I agree with kelly. You should totally print a copy of a conversation and give it to him. Or maybe tell him "she" has new pictures for him, and send him one of you. That'll shock him.
Is there any reason why you make the fake account in the first place?
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reader, kellyxxx +, writes (30 June 2009):
 You could keep talking to him and print off a conversation, then when you dump him just put the conversation in an envelope and give it to him. Just walk up to him, hand him the envelope and say 'it was me who you were talking too all along!' Then walk off! He won't have any idea what you're on about until he opens the conversation and reads it! Then ignore him if he contacts you. If you can't print the convo off then copy and paste it into a word document and it will print then! X
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reader, iSmil3y +, writes (30 June 2009):
Honestly, just come out and tell him. And I honestly think you should break up with him and find someone better because even though you're the one he was talking to and you were a fake girl, that just shows that he would go and flirt if there was an actual girl flirting with him. It's not worth it so I think you should just tell him it was you and just dump him and you can find someone way better than that, trust me. There are way better guys.
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reader, txgirl_05 +, writes (30 June 2009):
I'm going through a similar situation and I know exactly how you feel. I also love my ex bf so much, but he betrayed me in a really disrepectful way. You deserve better. I deserve better, we all do. Ask him to send you a pic of him and then when he asks you for one *pretending to be the other girl of course* send a pic of yourself. He will be shocked and won't know what to say. But like I said, you deserve better. Believe me, I know it's hard, as I am going through the same situation as you. Just stay strong and have a good support system or if you're religious seek guidance from God. Hope this is helpful. Take Care.
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reader, lovnlife +, writes (30 June 2009):
first of all you dont play those kinda games sweetie and you see why it back fired on you if you fell like you cant trust your man then you dont need proof cuz you can feel it and this computer stuff some people find exciting and thats where it should end if he talking to her about things you wouldnt then thees your problem this girl you made up may just be your alter eagle think about it
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