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male
age
36-40,
*ir-T
writes:After a checking this girl out for some time I decided it was time to approach her.I walked up to her and asked her out to lunch and she seemed excited and agreed to it. Her mum was standing close by so I said i wouldn't take her number there and then but would add her on Facebook and then we could agree on dates.I got home that evening and added her but she didn't accept it until 3 days later and when she did, she said 'I don't think you realize that i am too young for you but I am only 14'.This wasn't funny considering my age especially cos i thought she was 17'ish but i tried to act it cool and let the conversation die a natural death.Where the whole problem lies though is that she has an elder sister who is 20.I don't know what on earth made me skip her and go for the younger one but she has been all over my mind and face lately... we always grab the same bus and she's gotten quite free with me and told me a lot of personal stuff but I am afraid that if I ask her out it wouldn't seem right... either to her, her mum or even her kid sister.She isn't too mature mind-wise so if i ask her out the whole world would know and i would look like a big fool if i get turned down.What's the best way to go about this??Thanks.
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reader, Sir-T +, writes (6 July 2011):
Sir-T is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the kind advice guys... Much appreciated
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 July 2011): My answer is the same as it was before. Look elsewhere.
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reader, Sir-T +, writes (5 July 2011):
Sir-T is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your swift response guys and i completely agree with you. However, just the other day i told the elder sister to let me know whenever she was free so we could hang out and she agreed to...
I dont wanna get dissed but i feel she would want me... should i still leave it alone??
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reader, cmarieky  +, writes (4 July 2011):
There are more chics in town than the two sisters you're tryna get at. So why don't you look elsewhere for a lady. If it wasn't a bad idea u wouldn'tbe asking for advice.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2011): The best way to go about this is to go away completely. You had your bite at the apple. Trying again with another family member looks tacky and desperate, or worse - predatory.
If the older sister is immature and indiscreet then all the more reason to keep walking.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2011): firstly talk to her sister and tell her how you feel to her sister and ask her if she's ok with it and if she is tell her sister how you feel but say you won't do anything unless she feels the same and if she does feel the same ask her out and then talk to her mum and tell her how you feel to her daughter and check shes ok with it all
good luck and hope i helped
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (4 July 2011):
 Everyone has found himself in the situation where "the sister" or "the cousin" is better-looking, or better, in all senses, but I'm afraid you have run out of opportunities here. There are other women. You can go find another.
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reader, babygirllovej  +, writes (4 July 2011):
 Honestly I don't think it will work out. Where you already asked her 14 year old sister she probably isn't too interested. Her Mom will probably never accept you either.
I would move on and find another lady YOUR age. Be careful on who you ask out. At least get to know them a little bit.
Good Luck!
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