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writes:i've been dating this guy officially for only a little more than a week, but we've liked each other for a long time. he is very open and affectionate with me and is always telling me how much he likes me. this weekend i accidentally let is slip out of my mouth that i love him.he said, i really really like you but im not ready to say that yet and i don't say it easily so don't be offended if i don't say it for a while. he hasn't acted freaked out, he still calls me and acts the same around me but he doesn't tell me that he likes me anymore and im worried that even though hes pretending its ok he is secretly really freaked out.i wish i could go back and undo what i said. it is really to early for me to be saying things like that. i don't know what to do, should i try and talk to him about it or should i try to just brush it over and pretend it never happened? i like him so much and i really don't want it to be ruined just because of my stupid big mouth Reply to this Question
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reader, Original shiraz!  +, writes (11 May 2009):
You said how you feel, a relationship needs honesty in order to progress and have a future, youve told him how you feel and hes admitted its going to take him time, dont let it spoil what you have. The only reason it seems hes bcked off is not because hes stopped liking you hes just shocked that you were up front about it, lads deal with there emotions differently they find it hard to express and say things they mean so the way they act wont always be how there feeling! Hes been honest with you so your both off to a good start, he doesnt want to feel forced into saying it which is why hes backed off, maybe he wants time and to atually mean what he says? this takes a lot and he obviously respects you.Definately let this one go and forget its happened! its been said and you cant alter it, at least now he knows exactally where he stands and in time you will too, the more you let this get to you the more it will.
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reader, Ms.Helper +, writes (11 May 2009):
 I've been in a relationship for 5 month (on friday haha) and my boyfriend told me he loved me after about a month, but the first time he said it I didn't say it back. I said what your boyfriend has said, 'i don't say it easily'. It's a brilliant thing that he's told you that because now you know that when he does tell you he'll be telling you the truth because he cares about you.He maybe hasn't told you he likes you because he's scared you'll tell him you love him again and he's not ready to tell you yet.I think you should talk to him about it. You can't tell him you love him, then 'take it back', if you love him - you love him! Tell him you don't regret telling him that you love him but you would simply like to know how he feels about things. It'll all sort its self out, don't worry :)x
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