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writes:hi im 13 year old femaleand just recently started masturbatingbut i use a hairbrushand masturbate watching lesbian porni no it sounds discusting and i want to stopbecause afterwards i feel so dirrtyand hate myself for doing in is this normal?! :Splease help
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reader, confused.com65 +, writes (5 April 2012):
Hey, I am 15 and I constantly masturbate over lesbian porn, using fingers, things that vibrate basically anything that will go in..after I have an orgasm I also feel disgusted. I masturbate 2-3 times a day thinking or watching lesbian porn. I know this is not a question I just thought it would be licentious know your not alone :)
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reader, Dom123 +, writes (17 July 2009):
Okay, dont worry, i started watching lesbian porn cos i didnt like the penis bit in normal porn or the hand and blow jobs. Its normal. I fingered myself whilst doing it. If its the penis bit that you don't like too, then go on to just watching men and women kissing, then maybe fingering, the hairbrush is normal too. It builds up the tension and makes you feel better about yourself
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 January 2009): the first kind of porn i started watching was lesbian porn… I think partly out of default in the fact that it seems to be the most prevalent and easily accessible type… I felt pretty weird about the fact that I was doing it, but the female body is comfortable… something that you have experience with in your own… as a virgin, a man's body and penis would be a foreign, unknown experience… don't worry too much about it… look up something liiike… humor n' sex website… men fingering women… good and easy transition… and hot
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 September 2008): I started watching lesbian porn at the same age. I get so turned on by it and I'm addicted. Even though immediately after I orgasm I hate myself for doing it too. I get a little grossed out afterward. It's strange. I can't see myself with a girl but I like watching it. The only way I can orgasm with a guy is if i fantasize about a girl. And I don't fantasize the whole time... only the last few minutes. very few times have I orgasmed without fantasizing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 May 2008): it is normal it doesnt mean ur gay but its what turns u on a some guys like that but if your worried because its lesbian porn then maybe try other porn and maybe that will also turn you on but I think at your age you shouldn't even be watching porn
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reader, Stayc63088  +, writes (10 May 2008):
 Why is it you feel ashamed? Is your family very religious or were you brought up that sex is wrong in some way? Maybe sex was never mentioned at all? Well this probably won't help you feel less ashamed but don't hate yourself! It is so so normal. I watch lesbian porn quite a bit, probably more than normal porn, and I am 100% heterosexual. It is nothing to be ashamed of. At your age you are finding all this out at once. You may slow down or you may not, as I haven't really, but it is fine! Don't hate yourself, every single person does it. I have never used a hairbrush but just talking to some of my girl friends and what they do makes me feel like a prude almost! Sex is normal and masturbating is normal, no matter what you were taught. It is healthy and you are exploring your body. Good luck with everything and love yourself.
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reader, natasia +, writes (9 May 2008):
 ps sorry if I sound a bit Victorian in my advice, but i think porn is a bit bad - it is addictive, and it's a bit like the Macdonalds of sex - when you're hungry you really think you want it, then when (in the case of MacD's) you've had it and you're picking up the sticky ketchup tops and stuffing all the rubbish in an overflowing bin, suddenly it all seems gross and you vow never to have it again ...\
Compare with the feelings after real sex with a real person you love: you feel AMAZING, floating on a cloud of joy, radiant with love, totally in tune with another body ... blissful. It really is so much better there's no comparison.
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reader, natasia +, writes (9 May 2008):
Yes, it's perfectly normal, and doesn't mean you're in any way gay. Your body is just responding to sexual images (it imagines itself in those situations). Lesbian porn is all about the female body, and yours is just responding to that.
Having said that, porn is really really bad for you, and you are very young. And you're right, it does make you feel dirty. Your choices are:
- Ditch the porn. Stop it. You'll soon forget about it. Find a boyfriend.
- Keep watching it, but tell yourself it's fine to do it. (hmm. As you can probably tell, I prefer the first option!!)
You don't need porn. Get a real body next to you! And given your age, don't do any more than kissing!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2008): Yes! Your hormones will be all over the place and this is your own way of experimenting and finding out what works best for you. Don't worry about this, it's natural. Honestly.
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reader, growing  +, writes (9 May 2008):
 I agree wih "lonelytwo".so read it again,i just want to share one thing that you will feel guilty for few times but then it will fade away and may be just reading these answers will do away it.you feel guilt when you think that you are doing wrong but here people will explain you that there's nothng wrong with masturbation or watching porns(lesbians too).
but yes don't go for sex at this age.cos there where problem starts.
be a good girl the way you are.
lol!!
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reader, genie88 +, writes (9 May 2008):
there is nothing wrong with sexual desire.most women like watching lesbian porn not beause they are lesbians themselves but because they like to watch to find ways of stimulating themselves.trust me we've all done it.and as for the hairbrush thing...well...we've all used somethign at some point in time but i would suggest buying a dildo (dont worry they send them well packaged) and you can buy smaller ones depending on your preference.or if you really like the hairbrush then buy yourself some vibrator cleaner because there are alot of germs you are putting in the wrong place. Dont ever feel ashamed of ur desires but remember be clean.remember statistics show that girls play with themselves from the age of 3 onwards so you're doing nothing any other person hasn't.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2008): It isn't bad, and wathcing the same sex actually allows you to explore your own body on your own terms, which is good.
Hopefully you washed the hair brush before you used it ;)
What you might consider though, is understanding why you feel guilty. An opportunity to learn more about who you are as an individual, and what your needs really are.
Now 20 plus years ago, having porn available at your age, and society being as prudish as they were back then, things have changed, we are freer to express ourselves, so this is normal behavior, and is good that you learn about your sexuality, books cannot teach you this alone.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2008): it may be just a faze
i used to do similar but about lads n without the hairbrush but erm maybe u will grow out of it
otherwise why not experiment no one will know!
have fun!
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