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writes:Please someone has to help me.I can't live with this anymore.when i was 10 I was raped by my Fathers Boss.His boss is also one of his good friends.My Dad and his co-workers had a party to celebrate their works aniversary. All my Dads friends were there including his boss.I was up in my room cause it was to loud down stairs, then after about an hour being in there, someone knocked on my door, thinking that it was my dad, i opened the door. But it was his boss, he wasn't drunk nor high. He started talkin to me and telling me how he hasn't met me proply yet, i tried to close the door but he heldit open and grabed me and I screamed but no one heard, im not sure but i think he had hit me ova the head with somthing, cause i remember waking up after that on my bed an my dads boss was raping me and doin *u know wat* i was so giddy and tierd that i didnt do much accept 4 a little struggle.He smacked me in the face tellin me not to scream or he will make me pregnant. I was so scared and in so much pain that i didn't do anything.I was afraid of being pregnant cause he did his stuff in me, then left me there.The ollowing day i was foccused on everything that had happend. My dads boss was still ova, i screame and told my dad everything while his bodd was listening.But he convinced my dad that he didnt do anything and my dumb dad beleived him. My dad never cared everytime i told him and my mom i never met so I couldn't tell her.I am now 13 and my dad still has the same boss and i want to tell the police but I dont know how.Please help
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reader, elliebellie  +, writes (26 June 2008):
i am truly sorry for what happened and i dont feel that i have the knowledge and experience to answer this question or give advice to you, but i know one person who specialises in rape cases and you can email her and shell reply within 24 hours. just go to google and type in jackie cox and click on the first thing. she is a counsellor and recently spoke at our school.
i hope you find this helpful
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 June 2008): I can't tell you what I feel about this man, and I'm so angry with your dad I could spit. Hugs and kisses honey, you've been so brave coming and telling us this, especially when you wasn't believed the first time. I think your great, and even though your alone, I know you have the strength to get over this and will grow up to be a beautiful young lady.
Contact the people that Smiles and Trisha have told you about. They will be able to help. Here's the website for Canberra, where you live. http://www.rapecrisis.org.au/ We'd love to help and protect you, we'd love to give you hugs, but we can't. Contact these people they will help and they will sort out everything for you. You don't have to be alone, there are people out there to help you. I'm so sorry Kid for what this cruel and wicked man has done.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 June 2008): That's truely horrible.
I'm so sorry about what happened.
I think the other aunts have given you great advise and I agree with them. Smiles has given you great advise. I just wanted to write and say that my heart is with you. I hope this man gets arrested and pays for what he has done and what he has taken away from you. I really want to give your dad a bit of my mind... I'm so mad that he's being so stupid.
My poor sweetheart. I hope you're ok.
Let us know how everything goes.
Lots of Love, Emivia. x
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (26 June 2008):
 Is there an other relative you can go to? Someone you trust and who is not going to listen to your dad?
Follow the advice by Smiles. Strength in dealing with this.
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (26 June 2008):
 Smiles has given you the very best advice possible. I can only add that you can also contact this organization too; they will help you and guide you as needed.
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Australia's Kids Help Line which provides free counselling for all young people aged 5-25. Confidential and anonymous advice is offered via freephone, online or email.
website:
www.kidshelp.com.au
Telephone 1800 55 1800 (not free from mobile)
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Please contact one of these organizations to get the best help available for you. Best wishes.
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reader, TELLULAH +, writes (26 June 2008):
 Hi,
What an awfull thing to go through. I cant believe that your Dad didnt listen to you, especially as the evidence would still have been there. You have to listen to what all the others have said and inform on this man. Without any shadow of a doubt he will do this again, that is if he hasnt already.
I cant imagine what you must feel like, you are so young, you must have been terified. This man (monster) needs locking up. Do yourself and his next victim a favour, and call the police.
I feel so angry at your dad, that he didnt stand up for you. You should be able to rely on him more than anyone. I'm sure he will feel terrible when the truth comes out.
Good luck honey and be brave. XXX
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 June 2008): Vow, I am so sorry to hear what happened to you; This is very, very sad; I am so sorry that your dad have been ignoring what you told him and that he blieved his boss/friend rather then you;
This man had no right to do this to you; and for you to have to walk with this for so long; it must have been very difficult at times; I am sure you have been dealing with lots of emotions; have you not told anybody?It must have been so tough on you! I am so happy you have decided to open up and talk; it is good to get rid of all those bottled up emotions and all the feelings you have suppressed.
I SUGGEST:
You contact the Rape Crisis; they will be able to assit you; I have found this for you on the internet under Rape Crisis in Australia; but there are lots more numbers; maybe you can look in telephone directory for one close to you; or contact this number, they might be able to give you the number closest to you;
At the rape crisis centers, they have people qualified to assist you, how to deal with your feelings and will help you in all possible ways; you do not have to go to the police and not on your own; CONTACT the RAPE CRISIS to assist you; they are there to help you; they are dealing with this often; this happens to lots of people; They will know how to protect you and how deal with all the issues;
PLEASE CONTACT them;
The Canberra Rape Crisis Centre is available for any woman, young person or child, who has experienced any form of sexual abuse, whether it is a recent assault, or an assault that happened years ago. You can use the Rape Crisis services, without reporting the assault to the police. The Centre provides free and confidential services. The 24 hour Crisis Telephone Number is
(02) 6247 2525.
Hours: Crisis Service: 24 hours, 7 days a week
Office Hours: Mon - Fri 9am - 5pm
Contact Details:
Phone: (02) 6247 8071 (business line)
Fax: (02) 6247 2536
Mail to: PO Box 916 Dickson ACT 2602
Email: [email address blocked]
Contact them and allow them to help you; they honestly will know the best;
Please keep me posted.
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reader, Fairy_Lu +, writes (26 June 2008):
 Ok well first things first well done for being brave enough to tell us what has happend as a victom myself i know how hard it is to talk about it and how much it controlas your life.
Right you need to tell someone in authority police teacher anyone who can help if your dad wont help find someone who will RAPE is serious many people hide the fact they have been rape from fear of being called a liar (believe it or not there are people out there who lie about being raped as sick as that is).
You will also need councilling i know you might not want to do this but the sooner you accept what has happend and accept the help that can be offrered the better, this can control your life can stop you trauting people effects every relationship, it can completly take over and eat you up and you need to stop that from happening and talking does help.
Dont let this guy get away with it if he has done it once while at a party he will do it again and get braver and take more risks, please dont let him get away with this dont let other people go through what you have been through.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 June 2008): Hey dear.. Just call the police and tell them everyyhing immediatly..You shouldnt let this man Loose at all! Talk to the police and telll me what happened! Bastards like that shouldnt live in this world!
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reader, bubbloo24  +, writes (26 June 2008):
 I would suggest you talk to someone at your school - a teacher or a school counsellor. They will probably contact social services and they will talk to your Dad about what happened.
What ever you do, don't keep this to yourself. This guy could go and do it to some other kids and put them through what you did.
Please talk to a member or staff that you trust at school.
I'm so sorry to hear about what has happened to you. I hope it gets sorted out and that you find some sort of comfort soon.
Take care xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 June 2008): Hi Honey, You need to phone the police and tell them exactly what you've told us. It doesnt matter how friendly this man is with your dad. Hes a rapist and a paedofile, he needs to be stopped before he does this to more innocent people.
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