A
female
age
30-35,
*rit_o7
writes:so i have relationship issues. i was molested when i was 6-7 years old and its hard in relationships because of it. i never told my exboyfriend even tho we didnt date long. i broke up with him cause i was afraid that we'd get too sexually involved even tho thats what i wanted. and i like him so much i just get a nervous worried wondering if i'm making the right decision being with him and stuff....but i really really like him alot.. what should i do whats wrong with me?
View related questions:
broke up, my ex Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, willywombat  +, writes (21 February 2007):
 Allow yourself to grow up. Stop these forays into adulthood until you have learned to live with and accept your past. If dating is hard then just maybe this is your psyche telling you that you are not ready to experience these emotions yet.
A
female
reader, rammsteinfan +, writes (21 February 2007):
 I am very sorry to hear of what happened to you when you were just a little girl! And I hope that you don't feel it's all your fault, because it's NOT!! I just hope that you had couseling for what has happened to you!!
AskEve has some wonderful advice for you! I have to agree for what she has said....you are so young to be having sex at your age! And I will add this...My dad was a doctor and told me that sex at an early age (13-17) there is a chance that you can get cervical cancer when you get older in age. Because you are still developing into a young woman and not ready to engage in sex (I was around 18 when I had sex for the first time)
If your bf loves and care for you, he will wait until that time. If he gets angry at you not being ready, Kick him to the curb!! There's other fish in the sea!!
I hope the best for you!! My Heart goes out to you!
...............................
A
female
reader, AskEve +, writes (21 February 2007):
 I would advise you NOT to have sex at your age. You're between 13 and 15 years old and you are still developing. Have some respect for yourself now that you are growing up and don't worry about your past. Just remember it wasn't your fault, you were a child and weren't in control of the situation.
If you are finding it hard to move on from it and are having problems with relationships it might be a good idea to talk to a counsellor or therapist about it. You will probably feel a lot of different emotions and get flashbacks when you and your boyfriend were close. Here are a couple of links that might help you come to terms with your past.
http://www.rapesuicidebeaumont.org/adults_molested.html
http://www.way2hope.org/child_sexual_abuse.htm
http://aacap.org/page.ww?name=Child+Sexual+Abuse§ion=Facts+for+Families
Refrain from having sexual relations until you're at least the age of consent (16) and even then, have good morals and respect for yourself.
Become close friends with you ex, explain to him what happened to you in your past and why you find relationships difficult. You never know, it might bond you closer than you ever thought possible.
Eve
...............................
A
female
reader, cd206 +, writes (21 February 2007):
 Did you get any counselling after your experience? If not I would see your doctor asap to arrange some. You're better off waiting until you're 16 before you have sex. So many girls in your position confuse sex and love because of their earlier experiences so it's important to be absolutely sure and you can't be that until you're of the legal age to make that decision.
CD
...............................
|
