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writes:My boyfriend split up with me 2 months ago after two and a half years. we have just got back in touch and he says he misses me but doesn't want to settle down at the moment. we are both young but i think it's as though he wants me to wait, he said he wants to be with me just not at the moment. do i wait for him or tell him nothing can ever happen. i still love him and i'm confused.
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reader, rammsteinfan  +, writes (22 February 2007):
 If you are ment to be together, it will happen. But in the meantime, don't just sit there waiting for him to make up his mind. Go out and date other guys, instead of waisting your time waiting! Have fun, and live your life! And you might just find that someone that will be more to you than the guy who couldn't make up his mind!
It happened to me in the same way! If I waited for this "jerk" that I thought I loved, I wouldn't have found the LOVE of my life! I am so glad that I didn't wait around, because I would have lost BIG time!
Love and Hugs!
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reader, AskEve +, writes (21 February 2007):
 If you both love one another and are meant to be together then you will. Be his friend for now and keep in touch with him. It may be that he's wanting to concentrate on his studies at the moment or he just wants some space to think things through. Let him know you're willing to be a friend to him but you respect his need for space. He knows where you are if he wants to talk.
In the meantime, I would continue to go out with friends and enjoy yourself. Do your normal, everyday things and don't put your life on hold for him. Like I said, if it's to happen then it will. If you still love him then you won't be interested in members of the opposite sex any more but that doesn't mean you can't still go out and have a nice time with your other girlfriends. If you meet someone else and fall in love with him then your ex and you weren't meant to be.
Eve
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reader, cd206 +, writes (21 February 2007):
 It seems like you could wait forever for this guy. I have only one question for you. what does your gut tell you? In these situations I've found it's always best to rely on your gut instinct rather than other peoples' advice because then you're more able to live with whatever decision you might make.
CD
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