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writes: my girlfriend is 10 years yunger to me,i am 25,we are madly in love and plan to marry after she joins some college that is 6 years from now.m ready to wait but is this relationship socially acceptable coz i for 1 year was her teacher in school and also gave her tutions for sm days.we never hav had any sex.just wanted to know how should i deal with the moral aspect of it will our parents agree.what sould we do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 December 2008): Iam indian,please uphold tradition of our culture.she is not yet matured mentally.If your love is genuine, wait till she enters into 21 years and finishes her education.If your lust remains then take consent of parents and enter into wedlock.
Dont get bad name to guru
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2008): I am an Indian.Kids from very well-affluent families don't work in part time jobs.That's a fact in India.This guy is clearly lying.
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reader, pepper27  +, writes (7 December 2008):
 I'm not to sure if its advise you want here or someone to agree with you, You question was.."Is this relationship socially acceptable"!
You have been advised by someone who knows your culture a lot better than I do. And you have been very rude in your reply's
To actually ask this question only tells me that you are unsure yourself and only you yourself really knows if this is or is not acceptable behaviour.. If my 15yr old daughter was dating a 25yr old I would be more than worried I'm afraid, In answer to your question I don't think her parents will find this acceptable at all
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2008): I have got a home and family.I am here to help.
That doesn't mean I ignore my family.I make sure that they have good food and clean clothes to wear.All of us Aunts manage a home,kids and we still manage to help out the best way we can.
"B fast in your replies?"
A typical Indian Male's mentality.I am not your servant here.
If you have got 97% in CAT you should at least know that 'I' is written in capital letters.
you have an attitude.you are in love with a minor.
you claim that I am being childish?What a laugh!
You have asked me not to doubt your integrity as an individual.your answers say a lot more about you now.Anyone who is reading this would understand it as well.
Since you are being a smart Alec you can figure out things for yourself.
I am off this thread.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2008): HLSKitten If any of my children had teachers like that I would move states.Forget about grammar.:-).
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2008): Firstly,Please stop typing in SMS(text) mode.I am sure you know how to type in proper English.
I don't think you read the link that I gave you.
I am very much disturbed by this comment of yours.
"we never hav had any sex.".
My question is do you want to?She is a minor.Even Consensual sex with a minor is STATUTORY RAPE.
I got the situation right.Where did you give her tuitions?Was it at your home?Was it a tuition agency?
I don't want to assume things.Have you kissed her?Have you played with her?
If I get a yes from you for the above questions,I would say you are knee deep in S***.
I am almost sure that her parents don't know anything about it.If they did,they would have freaked out.You are her teacher for Lord's sake.
In India We say Mata,Pita,Guru,Deva.It means Mom,dad,teacher,God.
A teacher is considered above God.you abused your position as the anonymous reader says.
You were not thinking at all.Should I say you were not thinking with your brains at least.
At 15 she is governed by her hormones.Love??Please give me a break.She may think she is in love.
Our movies glorify love a lot.Its a dance between the hero and heroine.Real life is a far cry from that.
In India the age of marriage is 21 for the female.If her parents get a whiff of what you are planning...Zooooom,you are behind bars before you can say...LOVE.
Engineering takes 4 years to complete.The 5th semester of Engineering is the beginning of the third year.
If she is almost 16,she is in school.I am sure you being a teacher at school wouldn't know much about engineering.
The 5th,6th,7th and 8th semesters of Engineering in India are a nightmare for the best of students.Entire nights of working hard gets you a distinction.It takes hard work,perseverance and single mindedness to achieve your goal.
If she gets married during her 5th semester how will she able to concentrate in her studies?
Who will be paying for her engineering education?I suppose it will be her parents.Though am not too sure about this,I can bet a goodly amount that a teacher
's pay packet in India is not as good as what engineers take home at the end of the month.The fees for a single semester of engineering is way beyond your imagination.Add the cost of professional books,computer courses and additional training to it.
So her parents educate her.You come in her 5th semester or final year and marry her.Are you going to marry her irrespective of her parent's opposition or are you planning to wait?
I would say you have thought well about this.You stand to gain in every way.
Prove me wrong.All you need to tell me that she is from a very poor family.Can you answer honestly to this question of mine?
Will get back to you again based on your answer.
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reader, hlskitten +, writes (7 December 2008):
 If any of my childrens teachers used grammar like that, I would move schools
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2008): The situation is genuine alright.
I am not able to believe it either.I was waiting for you to respond back so that I can put my doubts across to you.
In India we finish our XII std at 18 0r if in case you got double promoted-at 17.
you have mentioned in your post that your girl friend is 15 now.How can she join college after 6 years.She would be 21 right.She would be finishing college at 21.
Until otherwise you have lied about her age.If she would be joining college after 6 years she would be 12 now.HORROR OF HORRORS!
As you say if this post is genuine,get back to me with the genuine details.Will definitely try and help you out.
In India the legal age of consent for sex is 18.
Check this link out.
http://www.interpol.int/public/Children/SexualAbuse /NationalLaws/csaIndia.asp
I will get back to you after you have read the link.
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reader, hlskitten +, writes (6 December 2008):
I'm not convinced this question is genuine...
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2008): No one will ever agree with this!!!!
Maybe if you guys wait a while i.e. till she is past 21 to bring it out in the open it would be better.
Dont have sex before she is legal PLEASE!!!
Also be careful - technically you have abused your position of care to this girl, shes underage and you're supposed to be a teacher.
Sorry but it will probably end in tears
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