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reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for the help on this, i haven't seen the guy since to answer one of the questions, i was 14 and he was 23xx
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reader, SusieQ1970  +, writes (29 August 2007):
I think you have been very silly. I agree with what has already been sent that you should get yourself checked out. I'm not condoning this guys behaviour if he has done something wrong but you have been stupid enough to put yourself in this position and I hope that you can learn something from it.
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reader, duce00  +, writes (29 August 2007):
 Theres one thing not mentioned here. How old was this guy? I dont know the laws in the UK, but here in the US he would go to jail if he were 18 or older. You seem to have opened yourself up to the possibility of this happening but that doesnt change the fact that this guy is probably a predator of young women. Your probably not the first or the last.
Take care of yourself first and make better decisions in the future, but also think about the next girl he may do this to as well. Do the right thing based on the truth of what happened.
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reader, metalinvasion92 +, writes (29 August 2007):
 besides the fact that you shouldnt do drugs in the first place.....all i rlei ahve to say is make sure u dnt have any std n make sure ur not pregnant. n if u r reli hurt by the fatc that it happened thn if u must call for rape, but u must uindertsand you will eventually if u do that have to tell ppl that you were stoned which may break alot of bridges....trust me
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 August 2007): Well, who's to say that he took advantage of you and that it wasn't the other way around? I assume he was drunk and stoned too! just b/c you're a female and him a male doesn't automatically make him the abuser and you a victim. You say you took him up to his room, but you fail to say then what happened but if you were willing at the time, you weren't taken advantage of in my mind, you did it b/c you wanted to. On the other hand if you said no once you got up to his room, then that is rape. But we need more info.
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reader, Sugarbuns  +, writes (28 August 2007):
 Put it behind you and know your limits next time. The advice the other aunts have given you also apply. One of the greatest things a woman can do, is not put herself in a situation where she is not in control of what's going on around her. Good luck.
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reader, Geminibabe2013 +, writes (28 August 2007):
first off if u dontr want this to happen again i say not to go with a guy when ur stoned.i kno its kinda hard to do that when ur out of it at the momnet but next time think before you act. (not meaning to get all second grade guidence counsler on u). as people toled u make an oppiontment with ur doc for STDs
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reader, stina +, writes (28 August 2007):
 Hello Anonymous,
First, do what Yummy stated - get tested for any STDs - call your doctor and make an appointment.
Second, stop smoking weed and getting drunk.
Third, if you told him not to do something sexual to you and he did, then talk with an adult you trust. If you think the police should be involved, then by all means you need to contact them.
Take care.
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reader, YummyMummy +, writes (28 August 2007):
 so you took him up to his room? That's not him taking advantage og you hun if you taking him to his room impled you wanting to do something.
I cant help you anymore as I have no clue what went on so cannot advise you anymore then what I did already.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 August 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni did not say i did or that i did not but i took him up to his room
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reader, YummyMummy +, writes (28 August 2007):
Did the guy rape you? Did you at any point say to him you wanted any sexual contact?
If he honestly "forced" himself upon you then I think you should tell someone because whether you were sober or whatever that isn't right.
If you "led" him on at any point in your drunken stoned state then just dont get yourself in to that position again of putting yourself at risk.
If there was sexual contact I would get checked out for STIs and AIDS and also get yourself the morning after pill asap incase you could get pregnant.
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