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reader, Bounce  +, writes (20 November 2007):
yeah, I say go for it if you want to go to jail and get raped by some big guy named Bubba.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2007): My ex was a pedofile he was 31 when he raped my 10 year old daughter at the age of 36 he was messing around with 14 and 15 year olds. 15's a bit young
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reader, SassySashy +, writes (28 August 2007):
it's sad that you have trouble meeting people but i wouldn't suggest you do something that might interfere with her mental growth as a TEENAGER. I dont mean to be cruel or mean i just want to be brutally honest. Don't do anything that might hurt her in the long-term if you care about her at all you will leave her untouched physically and emotionally. Not to mention your friends with her mother's boyfriend ...don't you think that might cause un-needed issues.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 August 2007): I am 23 and have the same problem here. I have a best friend who I go camping and ride ATV's with. He is living with a woman who has a 15 year old girl that I have known for almost 2 years now. I go swimming and camping with her whole family all the time. But she likes the same things I do and we both connect on so many things that I have recently noticed that we are both becoming too attached to each-other. I have never had a friend connect with me on such a level. Let alone a female friend. We both realize that we have quite an age difference, but this is truly more of a friendship than anything else. But who hasn't wanted a girlfriend or boyfriend that connects with you so well on so many things. I would never find someone like her in an area such as this in many years to come. I don't want a sexual relationship because as a real friend I wouldn't want her to have such a relationship and the problems it comes with at a young age. I would however like nothing more than to simply become her boyfriend as anyone else would. Take her to the movies and hold her hands kind of thing. I would rather see her with me than some perverted 17 year old who just wants sex. For those who are interested, I run a convenience store and have little time to get out and meet other people than my friends, and this is why I do not already have an older girlfriend of my own. I also live in a very laid back country area where girls are more interested in farmers than people who can count. Very hard to find someone I like who doesn't have 3 kids already.
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reader, SassySashy +, writes (23 August 2007):
offense intended..at nine or eleven years old no child knows whats going on i don't care how mature you think they are. The fact is that at that age you are taking advantage of a child, YOU ARE a predator.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2007): Ok sassysashy you are right I am in denile. We did have a sexual relationship right from the start. Yes I will let my kids stay at an adults house. Not until they are 9 and know what is going on.
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reader, Emzy1591  +, writes (17 August 2007):
 Hi, Im 15 and in kind of the same situation. I am seeing a guy of 25 and we have a fantastic relationship, and we havent slept together. Hes prepared to wait until im ready even if that means i turn 16 and still dont want to lose my virginity. If you two work on a relationship which isnt based on sex then thats fine. I'd speak to her parents first though, my boyfriend did and they respected him and our relationship more knowing he was a genuine guy.
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reader, SassySashy +, writes (14 August 2007):
To the guy that said he dated an eleven year old. If you expect people to believe that you didn't do anything sexual with her your naive. If you think your not a pedophile your in denial. Where were her parents? Did you decide to become her daddy? When did you get the idea that this was alright? What are you going to tell your child when they ask how you met eachother? Are you going to let your child "spend the night" at adults homes? Lastly, are you going to start dating your child? ....just a few questions i have popping up in my head....
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2007): Well if I tell you I did something then I can get in big trouble
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2007): I would date her. Now I have a question for the guy that dated the 11 year old. How did you not ever do anything with her or did you actually do something and wont tell. Hell I dont think I could keep it in my pants that long.
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reader, somewhat_anonymous  +, writes (8 August 2007):
Yes, some 15 year olds are attractive and dress like hoochie mamas, but don't do it. Think about it. You're an adult and she isn't. Sexually you'd be in trouble, but mentally you're probably on different ends of the spectrum too. She's probably half way through high school, or maybe only a fourth and you might be done with college at your age.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2007): In Britain you become legal at 16. Unfortunately she's 15. And being 23 you probably have sexual erges for her and might take it too far. But you could take her out for dinner and what not but don't forget that her parents wont be too happy to hear that a 23yr old man wants to date their daughter. Be on the safe side and date someone your own age.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2007): yes date her. I started dating an 11 year old when I was 27. Nothing sexual of course. Just movies and dinner she even came over the house alot and spent the night. we fell in love and on her 18th birthday we became a true couple. she is expecting our first child. You can date an underage girl just DO NOT HAVE sex with her. If I can wait 7 years you can wait 3. Go for it friend.Cant wait to see how people judge me on here after reading this. People where I love think I am a pedofile for this but nothing happened.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2007): Stick to females your own age. I am sure this 15 year old is a nice, mature girl for her age, etc, but the cold, hard reality is....she is an underage minor. She has a major crush on you, dear. But she isn't considering the legal consequences of what could happen you. is she? She is not thinking in a mature, clear manner and you wouldn't be either,if you dated her. While it could be flattering to you, try to remember girls her age do like older guys, because they are in a big hurry to 'grow up'. Many teen girls do not like the immaturity and attitudes of boys their own age. Many also like to date older guys to impress their friends. Tell her thanks but no thanks, be nice.. and be gracious. At 15, many girls tend to be over-sensitive to the realities of being turned down. She will get over it...guarunteed.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2007): Why are you interested in a 15 year old? What is she, a freshman in high school? That's kind of sad. Let's turn tables here. What if there were a 23 year old woman considering a 15 year old boy? I bet a lot of ppl. saying it is o.k. wouldn't be saying that were o.k. What is with the double standard? You're too old for her. And her asking you out kind of shows to me that she could be easy. I could be wrong. But you'd think she'd want to date guys in her school. You're old enough to be finished with college. She just entered high school. It isn't right. Try to find a girl your own age. Unless you live at home with your momma and can only attract 15 year olds.
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reader, advice 247 +, writes (5 August 2007):
 it would be illigal if you had sex but im sure it is fine going out with her but maybe you should find somone your own age if you are worring about it so you will be more sure of yourself you are doing the right thing
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reader, love-him +, writes (5 August 2007):
 Hey bbe, it is legal, just not to have sex. I got with my bf wen i was 15, and he was 20. if you like her a lot, and respect that you wouldnt do anything you were both not comfortable about thn i dnt c there is that much of a problem.
I hope i helped & good luck,
Mail me if you would like to talk x
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2007): You've known each other for quite a while and you get on well so why don't you just take things really slowly and see how things go? You might find the age difference is an issue or you might not.
Who cares what other people think. It's how you two get along that is more important. Go for it, if that is what you want to both do.
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reader, happytochat  +, writes (5 August 2007):
It would be illegal for you to have any sexual relationship with her. But if you were to just date her it wouldnt be illegal. You have to think whether or not you would be ok with having no sex? If so then dating her could be a option. However you must also consider taht shes young, will probably make many mistakes this being one of her first relationships probably. So you would have to be patient. Also be prepared for people to frown upon it...and you may not get her parents approval either, which can be hard to deal with.
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reader, Jamer70 +, writes (5 August 2007):
 Well first of all its "legal" to date her but very illegal to have a sexual relationship with her.
I reckon your better off steering clear of a relationship with this girl as she is too young and may be trouble if shes asking out a 23 year old man
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2007): Well it would not be legal here in the US, and I think you are a bit old to be interested in a 15 year old baby....really, think about this, she is still in school living at home, and you are a man and hopefully on his own...what could you possibly have in common? She sounds like trouble if she is bold enough to ask someone like you out! Just my opinion.
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reader, meandmy2 +, writes (5 August 2007):
 I don't know what it's like where you're at, but here in America the word of advice is "15 will get ya 20". 20 years that is, in the state pen...
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