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writes: Hello everyone, I am 17 years old, and my friend likes my boyfriend. I talked to him about it, and he knows she likes him, but he says he doesnt like her, he was saying really nice things, but I dont know if I should believe it. I know this sounds stupid but I asked him through a text message, I tried telling him over the phone but I couldnt, I guess I was just upset and couldnt talk at the moment, (plus my friend was over and I would have felt werid haveing that conversation with her right there). He responded by saying "I knew something was bothering you...no of course I dont like her..why would I like her when I have someone as great as you?". I told him that I felt he might start liking her, since she liked him. He said there is nothing to worry about, freinds and ONLY freinds. And he told me he would call me today, and said "I LOVE YOU MORE THAN YOU COULD EVER IMAGINE NO ONE CAN CHANGE THAT". He always says he loves me, and I believe it, I mean he is nice, sweet, we can communicate well, we have been together for a while (11 months), he wants a good realtionship (honesty, trust, and communication- our three "rules") he calls me everyday, and he takes me out. I just hope he is telling me the truth. I guess im just a little worried..Should I be?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2005): i have the same problem. my friend likes my boyfriend but i confronted her about it and she said she likes him and she won't try any funny buisness to try to screw our relationship up but im very worried because she calls him on a daily basis and talks to him about how cut he is!!! But the thing u need to have in ur man is TRUST!!!!!!! i trust him cause actions are stronger than words and when she says all that stuff he takes control and tells her he has what he wants me!!!!but really i was worried at first but than i was thinking i know him more than anyone he should be able to control his self around her and as i watch him i found out he can.
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reader, NordicBeauty +, writes (6 July 2005):
Honesty, trust and communication.Those are the 3 rules you & your boyfriend agreed on.So honey...trust him...unless he gives you a reason not to.So far, he is attentive, loving, caring, tender & true.The insecurities come from within you & must be dealt with.In time, you must learn to trust him or it will damage your relationship.There will ALWAYS be little foxes who try & spoil the vine.That means there will always be other females who like your boyfriend & might try to compete for his affection, but your boyfriend LOVES YOU & constantly reassures you.Just relax...surrender to Trust & your relationship will blossom & grow !((hugs))
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reader, Matt,20 +, writes (5 July 2005):
Hi Sweetheart,Well, I'm a guy and I'm 20, look, the reason why I'm giving you this reply is because It will help you very very much.I'm currently dating a wonderful girl, she is 17 ( like you ) and I'm 20, I had my EX's texting me, phoning me and even asking me to go for coffee and even to their houses!when I could easily have done, I have my own car, free time from my girl and could easily do anything that I want...BUT!I love this girl so so much that everytime I receive any kind of a crush or anything like that from Another girl I completely, and I mean I completely fully ignore it! I don't need any other girl, I have the one that makes me happy and has everything I need...So, the point I'm trying to say is that your boyfriend feels that same way as me for you and me my girlfriend, and she ( my girlfriend ) feels the same as you. But trust him!Love is trust, I trust my girl with everything I have, and it's been very very hard for me, but I do and so you must trust this wonderful man of yours.Remember, he is yours! and you are his. Wish you all the very very very best!Matt,20.
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reader, Helen05 +, writes (3 July 2005):
Sounds like you have been hurt in the past, but he sounds like a great guy. He seems to genuinely love you, and you are looking for a problem that is not there. If you love him you need to trust him.
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reader, becky05 +, writes (3 July 2005):
Doesnt sound like your boyfriend likes your friend, he sounds really, really nice so get this thought out of your head. It sounds to me like your friend's probably a bit jealous. Just think to yourself, she likes him but you've got him and he loves you, not her! Don't worry.
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reader, freedom +, writes (3 July 2005):
Yes, you should be worried. What kind of friend openly tells you she likes your boyfriend of 11 months? Has she always liked him? If so, then if the feeling was mutual then they would have hooked up before you and him started dating. If this a new thing (her liking him), then ask yourself some questions. Have my friend and I been hanging out more since we started dating? Does she make it a point to hang out with me when he is going to be around? How does she act when he is around? Does she talk to him when I am not around? Girls can be evil when it comes to guys. DON'T TRUST HER WITH ANY PERSONAL INFORMATION ABOUT HIM OR THE RELATIONSHIP! Girls, even your best girl friend, can never be really trusted when it comes to your boyfriend or a guy you like. If he says he doesn't like her you have to give him the benefit of the doubt and trust him. It sounds like he loves you, and if the 3 rules are just as important to him as you, then he isn't what you should worry about. Worry about the girl who says she is your friend, but by the way I have the hots for your guy!!!! He may not like her, but if they are friends and he listens to her, she could cause some problems for you. I don't know you or your friend, but I don't think she has your best interests at heart. Don't trust her, don't put anything past her even if it seems to crazy to be true, and watch your back! Make sure your boyfriend and you keep the lines of communication open at all times. Tell him you feel uneasy about her liking him, and that you don't want to worry about their friendship, and that you completely trust and love him and know that he would never do anything to hurt you. Tell your friend that you are glad she likes him because he is a great guy and that is why you and him have a great relationship, but she needs to find a diferent boy to crush on!!
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