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writes:heeeelp please!!! I have a huge crush on my female professor. I am also female. She actually is no longer my profesor because I have now graduated. She told me to keep in touch with her and we always got along very well. I know she is married but that doesnt always matter .... I am attracted to everything about her. I am no longer affiliated to the University other than being an Alumni so it is not illegal or can jeopardize her job. I feel like I need to get this off my chest and tell her but I do not want to scare her away and never wanna talk to me again. any help would be great.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 May 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthankseveryone. yea she is married to a man. iam straight but something about her just gets me..women tend to be bi curious lol. i will tell her i admire her and look up to her and see if she is okay with a friendship now that i graduated. i think thats the best first step. if shes not into that i know she def wouldnt be into a sexual relationship. we will see.
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reader, Drew21  +, writes (16 May 2011):
 Is she married to a man?I worked a job at a University up here in Canada, a couple years back, where i operated out of a technical support office. I provided classroom support for professors teaching classes. I also supervised a small group of work-study students. One of these students was a girl who had a crush on one of her male profs. I happened to know this prof quite well, and was well-aware that he was gay. She was convinced that she could turn him straight (some religious beliefs were involved, here. This girl was VERY religious). I actually spoke to the prof on the subject. This girl was over the top with her pursuit for the guy. I remember one night in particular where he asked me "what do i have to do? Wear a pink tutu?" He was not going to be turned straight, no matter how hard she tried, and her persistence actually pushed him away.The same, i would imagine, could be true of hoping for someone to be gay. The odds are slim, if they are married, ya know?This same male prof, at another instance, actually tried testing the waters with ME one night when we were alone... It was valentine's day, and he dropped a couple of subtle hints that he hated going home alone that night, it would be really nice to have some company, etc. I nipped that in the bud as quick as i could, informing him i was happily engaged.It never really affected our relationship. We still got along smashingly afterwards. I think you just have to delicately broach the subject. You have to be aware, though, that going after someone who is married.. Be it gay or straight.... I mean, can you plead ignorance and say "Oh i didn't realize you were married?" if things go south, or does SHE know that you know she's married?That's a dangerous game.. I'd probably steer clear and move on..However, if you must get this off your chest, I would suggest maybe just mentioning to her that you've always felt a very strong connection to her.. A strong bond.. And that you really appreciated her as a teacher in the context of the class, and you were wondering if it's possible to explore some form of relationship outside of the class.See how that goes down? What kind of response you get?
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reader, RosePetals13 +, writes (16 May 2011):
 Hi sweetie,
It is very had telling someone how you feel But you would know what kind of person she is & how she might react to thing. Is she close or open minded? if she is open minded i would suggest telling her how u feel if it is bothering but let her know u still want to be gr8 friends but u just wanted 2 be honest with her. Good luck [:
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reader, lonelygirl11  +, writes (16 May 2011):
id say keep in contact with her and lether know howmuch you appriciate her and care for her but nothin else as it may scare her and you will lose contact which you would not like! i know when i find my teacher i wont tell him how i feel eventhough i want toas i would be scared of losing contact with him again. sayin that i havent found him as yet. if u wanna talk i here. hope this helps
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