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writes:Hey I'm a 19 yr old female with a dilemma!I have this friend, we have been best friends for about 7 years. He's had a girlfriend for the past 4 years, one that I helped him to get- when he saw her he basically fell in love and said he wanted to marry her but he didn't know how to get to her so I worked my matchmaking magic and helped them get together. They've been very happy for the past 4 years, are very very close, and he never speaks a bad word about her.He and I hang out sometimes and he has helped me through 3 rough breakups. I have always looked at him like a big brother. A few months ago we were hanging out at my apartment and talking about stuff, reminiscing and I was telling him about my last sex partner (I've had about 20 and I always tell him about them). Anyway one thing led to another and we started flirting.. we had never really had that kind of chemistry before but for some reason this night there was electricity between us... we ended up having AMAZING sex... it was the most erotic experience of my life so far... it was mindblowing... his girlfriend is one LUCKY GIRL to have him.But that's the problem..Afterwards he said it was amazing for him too but then he started panicking about his girlfriend. WE both agreed that he would not tell her and neither would I. It would just be a one time thing. We haven't had sex since but whenever we hang out there is tension between us and it is getting uncomfortable. I want to sleep with him again and I know he wants me too. His girlfriend is such a sweetheart, she and I have grown close over the past few years and I feel sort of bad for doing this to her but mostly I just want him as a fuck buddy. She has no idea at all what went on between us. He says he still loves her and wants to marry her one day.I don't want to marry him, I just want to fuck him. I want to break up their relationship so I can have my friend back... I know it's selfish but whatever, he and I have known each other longer than theyve known each other. I feel entitled to him since I set them up haha.. anyway I feel like I want to tell her about us but then he'll be mad... how do I do this???
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2008): Hey if you want to f*** him then f*** him. What are we to try and stop it. But you have to ask a couple of questions first is fucking him more important then your relationship between you and your friend and his gf.Another thing is if you want to f*** him and you dont want to feel guilty about it invite his gf to join. So act like it was spontanous. Like seriously invite them over for dinner then tell her that you always thought she was hot. Then start kissing her. It cant be that hard I mean I am not a bi or a lesbian but i have some friends that is. Just do what you think is right.
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reader, blazee  +, writes (19 October 2007):
 dont take to many of these posts seriouslly, you should live your life the way you want to live your life. most people wil say that you should always do the right thing like many of these people here and they will say your disgusting but no doubt they have selfish aspects to them as well. ok b i would say live your life the way you want to live it, noone has a right to tell you if its right or wrong.anyway answering your question since most of the posts on here have not done that, talk to him, make sure he wants it to and that you wont brake up your friendship by doing something like this. because the worst thing would be not having any relationship with him.and think about it yh? before you u choose what you want to do, just think about other peoples feelings, and if you would be hurting them, through no fault of there own.nywaiz gwd luck b wish u the best xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 October 2007): hay, i have to agree with the other posts on this one - you can't break up their 4 year relationship simply because YOU want a fuck buddy, whats wrong with you? How would you feel if you found the love of your life and your so called 'friend' tried to split you up simply because they felt like it!?!? You really need to back off straight away. If I were you (and its gonna be hard) but I would explain to your mate that your not comfortable with the situation and you think its best if you stopped seeing each other as much. If you were a genuine friend you would want him to be happy - Dont you dare think that you have the right to come between them simply because you helped them get together. It doesn't work like that. Go find someone else whos single that you can fancy and have mind blowing sex with, I doubt your friend is the only guy who knows what hes doing!
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reader, Abacadaba +, writes (19 October 2007):
 20 sex partners and your 19? what makes your friend so different from these other 20 then. Personally i think what your trying to do is out of line, if youve got such a 'healthy' sex life then leave your friend out of it, hes obviously happy with this other girl. Dont do it.
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reader, rcn +, writes (19 October 2007):
 So what you're saying is you really have no friends, at least not who you consider to be friends.
You are not entitled. You're beliefs are abnormal, just as evil as your actions. You say she's a sweetheart, and you want to destroy her world. Is living with a cold, black heart difficult for you, or do you find being this evil a simple life?
You need some real psychological help before you cause ruins to other peoples lives. You have absolutely NO right to do this to her. You have NO right or entitlement to sleep with your friends boyfriends. What you did was wrong. There is no excuse or no reason accepted for it. If you're thinking of reasons to justify, stop your lying to yourself, there is NONE.
Now wanting to break them up for your own benefit. You may break them up, but if I were him, you'd loose a friend as well. That would be OK, then you could find other back stabbers so everyone can back stab each other without causing harm to those that don't deserve to be harmed by malicious acts.
I really fell sorry for this gal you call your friend. Actually I think you need to come with a warning label.
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reader, Tommy7 +, writes (19 October 2007):
You make for an unkind god. Let the poor boy have his happiness.
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