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writes:i love a 16 yr. Old girl , puja very much..Sitting next to me in the 10th boards, i m 16 too, how would i propose her, i' ve thought to propose her on 18th march 2011, the 2nd last xam, and wait for rply till 23rd, the last day of xam.. Plz help me, i luv her more than anything else on the earth.. Reply to this Question
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reader, Radhika Arora +, writes (11 March 2011):
 You are only giving your board exams! You can be her friend and try to keep in touch with her but don't rush for a relationship. It could hamper that girl's studies, and if she says no, then yours too as well. So wait! Don't make your brain clumsy with all these thoughts. Study well. And think about this later. Best of luck for your board exams.
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reader, GeeGee255  +, writes (11 March 2011):
 Personally, I think you are too young to be considering marriage, but I understand that your culture is different from mine in the USA.
So all I will say is that I think it would be better for you to wait until after exams are over.
That kind of pressure could make her distracted and could cause her to not do as well on her exams as she would have.
And that is not how we treat someone we love.
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reader, funkymonkey123  +, writes (11 March 2011):
im only 16 and i feel like getting engaged at this age is far too young and she might to. even though you love her it might be best to wait a little longer so she doesnt feel pressurised. i know if i had a boyfriend and he proposed to me it would just worry me.
settling down ad choosing to be with one person for the rest of your life is a very big decision to make at 16.
my friend got engaged when she was 16 and a month or two after they slipt up. im not saying dont propose to her. because you love each other right ?
perhaps just wait a little longer. talk to her about the future and when the times righs and you are emotionally ready then propose. you need to make sure this is what you both want and getting engaged at such a young age isn't going to have an effect on your relatinship.
also another thing to do to be correct about it aswel as for legal issususe is to ask her parents how they would feel about it.
as you are only 16 both the male and femal need parental consent to get married and you would so until you are legally adults (18).
another thing to consider is - are you living together? if your not i would suggest going through that stage for at least a few months before you think about proposing just to get a feel to what it would be like once you are married.
please consider waiting.
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reader, yomama65 +, writes (11 March 2011):
 Honey, first of all, you are not even adults yet, so getting married is just not realistic. I know that your first love can be really intense, but hold off on the proposal until you are at least old enough to get married. In my opinion, you should be at least 25 before you even THINK about getting married. Ideally, 30. I was 37 and it still got screwed up. Enjoy your youth. Enjoy your girlfriend. But hold off on the marriage thing.
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reader, uncle bob  +, writes (11 March 2011):
 I see by the flag in your header that your in India.
I really don't know what the marriage customs are in your culture, so I'm out on a limb here.
The answer I'm about to give comes from a western culture background, so please bear with me.
However, if it where me, I'd be asking myself these questions.
1. Am I emotionally secure enough to take responsibility for another?
2. Am I financially secure?
3. Am I mature enough to raise children?
4. Will I still feel the same in 10 years as I do now?
Marriage is one of the biggest decisions you will ever make in your life.
Go slow, and talk to your parents. This is not the kind of mistake you want to make so early in your life!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 March 2011): hi ! i think first you should get sure that there is something in her mind about you. also think about that what will happen if she does not like you. first you should take her in your confidence and you should know that she did not love anyone else. also first to try to make her your friend.... and only after that you should tell her about your love towards you
wishing you a good luck...........
definitely she will be yours
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