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writes:I am 15 years old, I live with my mom and 14 year old sister. I have been with my 17 year old boyfriend for six months now, and he wants me to move in with him and he and I want to have a baby. We both feel ready for this. And I know its a big responsibility to have a baby at only 15. But I feel I am ready. I need advice as how to go about well, moving out. I am not in school I am being homeschooled. I would feel bad for leaving behind this life for a fresh start and I think that no matter how bad this relationship with my mom and sister is they dont deserve me just to up and leave but we both want this. I need advice on how do I maybe as bad as I dont want to maybe tell my mom. And how to make her see that we both love each other and he can take care of me and my baby. Please anything would be greatly appreciated. Thank you. Reply to this Question
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (10 September 2008):
 Someoneelse, you just proved our point about the decision making abilities of some young teens. I hope things go well for you and your daughter.
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reader, michelleAKAmandi +, writes (9 September 2008):
 Sweetie,at 15 you are not ready to do as you think. Here is your first clue... QUOTE, "I need advice as how to go about well, moving out".If you are not sure of how to do something as simple as that, then you're definitely not ready to make a major decision in life such as just that, move out or have a baby. Also, if you move out, will you have the initiative to complete your education? or will you be more apt to play the wife role that you are finding so interesting right now? Listen and learn ALL that you can right now, take this time to grow and ENJOY your time as a child. You are a child wanting to have a child. You have SO much to experience and can do so many things that are fun. When you are tied to a child, you won't be able to just up and go when you want too. Think really hard before you make a move on your thoughts sweetie.Let us know what you think about what we've said.Good luck,Michelle
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (9 September 2008):
You know I'd really like to have the power to let this unborn future child be able to weigh in on this decision. Either that or a crystal ball that would show you the future if you make such lousy decision. But since I have neither but have raised two 15 year old girls before, I know it can just be a waste of breath. I guess I can only hope that you wise up, and if not, that you don't live in North Carolina.
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reader, previasc96 +, writes (9 September 2008):
You need to finish school and get a secondary education too. You'd be making your life unecessarily hard by moving in with him and having a baby now.
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reader, claireleatherdale  +, writes (9 September 2008):
 ok it sounds like u don't want 2 go but u want 2 be with this guy no matter what so here's my advice u and ur bf sit down with ur mum and his parents and talk about it in a mutal enviroment say like in the park or somthing don't do it in ur house and don't do it in his and see if ur parents can come up wit a soluition to this problem with u it may work if u try it out with both of u living together at ur mum's or his parents house because we never really truely know some one until we live with them and i think your too young to be on your own if it doesn't work out with this lad
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reader, miss know it all +, writes (9 September 2008):
i really think you need to think things through properly you definitely are to young to have a baby i had a little boy when i was 19 and it is very hard and if you do decide to have a baby you really need to look at what having a baby entails its not as easy as you think. I suggest you and your boyfriend sit down with your mother and discuss things through with her because the best advice you can get is from her. Even though you both love each other very much you really need to think things through. I think its best to wait for a few years because uve only been with your boyfriend for 6 months and its best to see where your reltionship will at that stage. U will also have to look at the expense of having a baby and then when you get a house because ul have your household bills to pay aswell.
I really hope this advice helps you discover what you really want to do.
good luck hunny
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