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writes: k i really want to loose my viginity and i kiss my arm and pretend a boy is actually dare but how do i get a boy that is right they all call me ugly but i dont think i am and im hated off all the girls giv me sum advise plzz im 14 x Reply to this Question
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reader, stillanooooooo  +, writes (27 October 2009):
listen im so sorry but what people havce said is so write im only 14 but i lose mine at 12 a very young and horrible age and beleave me nothing good came from it no i lost mine for the same reason i thought people would like me better it i had lost it but they didnt i got people calling me and i had a pregnancy scare nwo that wasnt good i was young i really i wish i had left it to some one i truly love and made it specil i wish i would have lost it in the future like when im 18 because i didnt even enjoy it because the boy was just using me for sex to be trufull there was no love what so ever not a bit you have to understand i no you think this is write please message me and we can can talk hun xx
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reader, babewithbrains  +, writes (21 June 2008):
 I know what you're going through, really, sometimes all I want is a boyfriend to say that he loves me. But trying to get a boy at your age who'll go to second base is kinda scary, as lots of things go wrong if you have sex before you're 16. He'll probs be over 16 so he'll get done if you get pregnant, and, out of interest, have you even found out where you can get condoms? I am 2 years younger than you, but i wouldn't even let my boyfriend touch me down there, let alone stick his dick in it. Sure, you can get a boyfriend, have fun, but please, please don't have sex, it's just not worth it.As for people putting you down, it doesn't matter as long as YOU think youre beautiful, not some boyfriend you pick up.Love,Jellyxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2008): You're not too young to think about sex or to want to try sex. Not at all.
But you're way too young to actually do it. You're just too young for anything good to come from trying it now.
I'm serious. You might be mature for your age but it doesn't matter because I would still say this even if you were 14 or 15. A lot of people first have sex when they're 16-18 and they STILL regret it later.
Maybe you won't wait until you're 17 or 18 to start having sex or anything but 12 is definitely too young.
Do you realize that there is such a thing as kissing and making out without having intercourse? Sometimes kids seem to grow up thinking that it's time for full sexual intercourse about a week after their first-ever kiss. It didn't used to be that way. Just making out is plenty of fun too and it's a lot less risky.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2008): I have a few questions for you miss...
firstly,You talk as if virginity is like leprosy and a disease...the faster you loose it the better it is...why??
Is it because of peer pressure??...if it is...then don't bother because peer pressure is the most dumbest thing you can succumb to...
You're just 10, you've got a loooong looong way to go in life.....so, for now don't bother about virginity and such complex issues....trust you will have loads and loads of time later on for spending on these things alone.....
and do some thing more creative to get out of that sex-obsessed thought process.....
take this advice as you would if it were coming from yoour bro....
Best ofluck with life..:)
take care..
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2008): Everyone is so right. What a horrible thing to be worried about at your age. Please don't do it. Nothing good will come fromhaving sex now. And the people bullying you...if you can get help from adults go fast and get help. If you act like it doesn't bother you then they may just stop. Like I tell my daughter who's just under your age...when you get older none of those kids will matter. You have so much ahead of you. Don't let them get you down. It may seem like for ever now but before you know it you will be an adult and starting a life. That's when you should decide to have sex. When you can pay the bills and got a job..
Be careful Please and never ever believe what those kids are saying about you. You may not like the way you look now butyou could grow into a beautiful woman someday. Life is more important than looks and grown ups know that. Just make it through being a kid and you will see. Its not always gong to be this way for you.
When boys pick on you it usually means they like you and when girls hate on you it means they are jelouse. I'm sure your beautiful in one way or another.
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reader, scrazy  +, writes (21 June 2008):
 Oh no, sweetie, don't ask questions like that!
You're too young to be thinking about sex; at least wait until you're legal before you seriously consider losing it - being a virgin is nothing to be ashamed of and you only lose it once. Make it special!
I'm sure you're not ugly, at your age, boys are trying to act like they're so bad ass and girls are just...Girls are a very MEAN gender; don't listen to them.
If you really want to feel better about yourself, ask your mom to take you to the mall to get a makeover. Cut your hair, buy some cute new clothes.
YOU DO NOT NEED TO HAVE SEX!
If you ever need to talk, don't hesitate to message me.
Take care.
xo
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reader, Hannah1987 +, writes (20 June 2008):
HI
i lost my virginity at 15 just coz i wanted to break all the rules! I am now married and i regret my first time like hell! It meant absolutley nothing! I didnt really fancy him! You do remember your first time forever, and i'll never be able to forget the loser i lost mine to! It sounds a load of crap but trust me.. wait for someone special who will stick around. you'll regret it otherwise. H x
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reader, baybii-123 +, writes (20 June 2008):
 wait until you think you are ready thats the main thing. So what if they say that to you keep your head up high and make them feel like it doesn't bother you because it shouldn't. Never do anything just because everyone else is. wait until you find the right person and it will just happen.
- beth x
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reader, GuardianAngel +, writes (20 June 2008):
 Hi there Flirty I don't think that you should be having sex at all because you are way to young and it is against the law you could go to prison and so can the guy you have sex with do you really wan to do that to someone just to have sex you should be at least 16 before you have sex if you did it and got pregnant how would you tell your parent/parents they would feel so ashamed of you think again please don't do it. I made that mistake when I was 14 now I have a 1 year old daughter but I love her very much.
Yours Sincerely
Guardian Angel
P.s Hope this helps and if you need anything else just write to me xxxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2008): Sex is not good unless you are in love with that person. Believe me it would be over before you know it! Wait you are to young loosing your virginity shoul be speacial!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2008): Pepper 27 is right.
Loosing your virginity is not the way to boost your low self esteem. If you sleepy with a guy just to loose yur virginity afterwards you will not feel liked and pretty... You will feel used and very silly.
And she's right about saying it looks like you are being bullied. It's called Verbal bullying and it sounds like there is some indirect bullying in their too.
Talk to your mum about how you're feeling. Don't tell her that you want to have sex, but tell her that there are people who are called you ugly and that they are making you feel really sad. Or you could talk to a teacher. Are you off school for the holidays yet?
And another point is that at your age you will not find the perfect young man to loose your virginity to. You should lose it to someone who loves you and who you love in return.
What's the rush all about?
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reader, pepper27 +, writes (20 June 2008):
 Hunny
You really dont want to be thinking like this at all, Loosing your virginity is not the answer to other underlying problems sweetheart, And I say this out of kindness you say the boys call you ugly this is very cruel behaviour but also not unknown at your age children can and will be cruel..And you say all the girls hate you, Sweetheart it sounds to me as if you are being bullied and if this is the case you need to talk to someone (If Im wrong Im sorry) But sometimes when we are younger we get pressured into thinking we should do certain things and we dont need to at all..You just need a little love hunny and a friend, Dont go sleeping with anyone just to loose your virginity as it wont make you happy and it wont make you loved either, Just take your time and wait awhile untill you are a little older and take care of you..WITH LOTS OF LOVE N HUGS MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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reader, Amsieee(: +, writes (20 June 2008):
 im sure your not ugly and i am your age also. but losing you viginity at such a young age can be regretable wait and find a guy who loves you remember real beauty is skin deep.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2008): Oh honey, dont loose your virginty because some girls are mean to you. you should save yourself for the right person. wait till you are in love. i know you dont want to hear this, but trust me this is the best thing. please dont do something that could ruin you later on. just keep believing in yourself. dont let those girls get you down. just know and keep teliing yourself that you a better than them. be more mature then them and just blow off their remarks.
Be careful and remember that everyone id beautiful in their own way.
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reader, LilzDon'tKnow  +, writes (20 June 2008):
 In a rush much? Lol jk
If they call you ugly then go get a hair cut and a makeover at the mall and then go to a party and get a nice guy there. Have your friends invite some guys that they know you have never met before at the party that you can meet. My advice, but i still have my flower lol
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reader, hannah76 +, writes (20 June 2008):
 Hello,
Please don't rush things. The legal age in UK is 16 and even then you shouldn't rush into it. You have your virginity so don't lose it cheaply. Hannah xx
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