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writes: I have a male friend who I meet up with once every month/2 months for a drink amongst friends. However over the last 6 months I have noticed when he feels no-one is looking he winks at me and when we went out last week, after he had winked at me and the person sat between us moved, he came and sat next to me, chatting away, and then we got involved in a chat about male and female strippers at a club he is involved with who had them as entertainment along for an evening do. He is a good laugh and is generally is quite open around people; however he told me, I suppose jokingly, about how he, was going to be the stripper next year and he wanted me to rub 'oil' onto him. We had a big joky chat about it. We then messed around at the table trying to knock some 'flags' out of each others hands and ten minutes later he had to leave. Now question is, is he just being generally friendly or does he fancy me - I don't want to make a fool of myself if he is just being friendly.
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reader, communicatrix +, writes (5 September 2005):
 I have no way of knowing if this guy is into you or not, but I kind of doubt it. In my experience, when guys are really into someone, they make an effort to be around the object of their interest more than once a month or so. You know—they get an email address or a number. Even if they're unbelievably shy, they do *something*—maybe fabricate an excuse to get the gang (including you) together more often.
I think there's a more important point here, though: if you can't tell whether the guy really digs you or is just horsing around, why do you want to be with him? It sounds like you want more than just a fling; are you so desperate to be in a relationship that you'd consider getting yourself into one where you'd never know where you stood?
If I've misread and you're just looking for a little hot action, find some flirty way to bring it up next time and if he looks appalled, you can joke it off.
But if you want something more, I've got to believe you'd be better off looking elsewhere.
Good luck!
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reader, Delila +, writes (5 September 2005):
He fancies you! Take a chance and get a little closer next time you meet up. I'll bet you he takes you up on it and ye end up together!
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